Best Relationship Tips!

[mombojombo]

What are your very best relationship tips whether for marriage or living together?

[specialmom]

Keep dates light.  I used to go to dinner with my husband when we didn't get a lot of time to do so because of our kiddos . . .  and we'd launch into some serious not so fun discussion.  Kind of ruined our dates.  We decided that we'd find time to schedule what we call meetings for those serious talks but dates are to be light and fun.  Keeps the spark going!

[RockRose]

Don't set your partner up to fail.  This was a novel concept to me,  when I dated my husband who I'm now married to for 32 years.  There was something (I forget what) that was really important to me at the time,  and I knew he was going to forget it and sure enough,  he did.  So I said I knew you would forget this,  and it hurts my feelings.  He just stood there looking sad and said,  if you THINK I'm going to forget something that means a lot to you,  remind me!!  Don't sit there and wait for me to fail!  I'm not trying to hurt your feelings,  something important just might slip my mind.  Yes,  and yes.  That has worked out SO well.  So before my birthday,  Valentines Day,  Christmas,  our anniversary,  etc.,  I tell him what I want and we have a fab time.  For one birthday I wanted to go see Jerry Seinfeld when he came here,  and  . . . I don't want to know how much he paid for those great seats.  I just don't want to know. ;D   Setting him up to succeed in pleasing me has made for a lifetime of wonderful celebrations.    There is so much hurt between couples when one (usually the woman) sits there silently expecting X to happen,  and when it doesn't horrible fights and hurts happen.  

[specialmom]

Ha, I like your style rockrose.  I can relate to this!

[specialmom]

Even when super busy, try to plan some fun time just the two of you to stay connected!

[Trini_Lover]

Keep friends and family out of  your business. The less the know the better.

[specialmom]

TTHAT is a great one!

[specialmom]

Do something nice for your partner every day whether it is a compliment, helping them with something, writing a note.  Just something that lets them know they are special to you.  

[specialmom]

I like the simple advice to have a good night kiss every night before you go to bed.  Sometimes when irritated, this sends us off to sleep on a better note and we wake up not mad anymore.  :>)

[KeeLolo]

Hi, well definitely make sure you love the person who you are with and that person loves you. That you do not have to change who you are for this person and they do not have to change for you unless its for the better. I'm old school was raised not to have premarital sex but I didn't quite make that. Also not to live with a man until I was married. I got married 4 days before my 21st birthday and my hubby to be was 21.It was hard the first 5years I'm not gonna lie. We argued all the time but it was over petty things that we thought were huge to us at the time. Believe people(friends/family) when they say you do not know a person until you have lived with them. Not that my husband was a bad person he's a true gentleman but there were things that I had to learn about him and he had to learn about me. We had to learn to compromise instead of not wanting to give in and wanting everything our way and not being considerate of the others feelings. What he did and didn't like and visa versa. But today I am 37 and he is 38 married this June 17yrs. Are there a few things that I would change if I had to do it all over again of course..... But would I do it again ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!

[AnnieBrooke]

Start by picking the right person.  Don't go with someone who hooks your worst traits but someone with whom you are a happier and more relaxed person.