Blaaaaah

[kirsten18]

someone pls tell me the difference between dating and a relationship???

[specialmom]

hm.  Well, have you asked him WHY he is saying that he doesn't see this as long term?  I would do that.  He is indicating as it stands now that he does care for you but that there is 'something' that makes this in his mind something that will go on for a limited time only rather than forever.  Most people when they are serious with someone don't say that it isn't long term----  they leave that open to see what happens.  He's indicating he's already decided that for himself (on his end).  I'd want to know why.  Then you can decide if you want to stay or not.  

[kirsten18]

When I asked him he said it was just me and him. And we don't have side people but not thinking long term.. I don't understand it. He even said the I love you....just confused is all

[RockRose]

And Kirsten,  if your guy says you're not "in a relationship" or "his girlfriend",  don't have sex with him.

I don't know if that was the basis for your question.

[RockRose]

The meanings of relationship words have changed so completely in the past 10 or so years it's hard to know exactly what is what.

I agree with SM's opinion.

I followed a grisly murder trial a few years ago - it was televised.  There was one "couple" living in a house full of unrelated people involved in this horrific crime and in trying to establish who lived in what rooms in the house,  the prosecutor would try to get the witnesses to identify who was who for the jury's understanding.  There were 5 murderers involved in this case,  so five trials.  EVERY trial it would come up who this woman was who was living in the house, and the lawyers would say so she's so and so's girlfriend and the witnesses would all stare blankly and say no,  she wasn't.  She was just a girl he was F**ing.  But they'd actually say the word on the stand.  She was living with him,  sleeping in the same bed,  helping murder the same people,  and she wasn't a girlfriend.  ???  

What I'd like to know is,   what does "talking to" mean.  When a guy says there's this girl I've been talking to for a month now,  what in the world does he mean?

Sorry to sound like an ancient relic.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, dating is usually when you have no verbal commitment to one another.  Some people do sleep with a person while 'dating' them and it is often that one partner will think that this sex makes it a relationship while the other really doesn't.  But a relationship generally means a couple has agreed to one another to be together and with no one else.  Does that answer your question?