I am in a relationship with a divorced man who has a 14 y/o daughter. Is it appropriate for a father to give his teenage daughter massage (foot, leg, all the way up the butt and back when she kept on urging him to go higher and needing more rubbing) when he puts her to bed to sleep? Yes, he still tucks his daughter in even if she's already 14 y/o. My man and I are currently staying on different countries and our only contact is web chat. I would sometimes see the young teen walk into the room, hug and kiss her dad, quite appropriately. When the girl feels unwell, she has a habit of napping on her father's bed. At times he had told me goodbye and said he will go lay beside daughter and take a nap with her. When she is down, he would give her a bear hug while sitting down and his face would be pressed close against her chest and tummy and he would give her butt comforting brisk pats. Several times, the teen would hug her dad and bite his cheek hard which caused him to reach out to try to spank her butt as she jumped away. I have seen him reach out to rub her tummy when she was feeling discomfort because of her period. He would also kiss his daughter, rub nose with her like they did when she was still a child, and playfully tickle her with his stubble. I admit I find the situation a bit disconcerting or I won't be posting this question at all. I am patient and open minded, I understand they are openly affectionate with each other, and I do try to rationalize what are the boundaries and appropriate behavior with regards to such situation.