Breaking up.

[HamedKhatiz]

Good morning or evening or day or night or afternoon ladies and gentlemen and whassup. My name is Hamed Khatiz and I am sixteen. ******* hell, man, there are breakups going on all over the place! My friend Xavian, my other friend Katie, my trainer. Am I a bad luck charm or something LOL?

I know now from the posters here that not all breakups are dramatic. Xavian's breakup with nothing short of heartless. She was hospitalised twice in three days for the after-effects of using the morning after pill and then the week after she came back to school, this hit her in the face.

'Gonna make sure she knows she is not alone tomorrow by talking to her.

But Katie recovered extremely well and my trainer is of mature age so that is probably a factor. He didn't show much bad emotion at training today, but you never know.

Back to breaking up. Some relationships are seemingly unbreakable and then end for the most heartless of reasons and at the worst of times. Are any relationships unbreakable and what makes people end it so abruptly and so maliciously?

Katie was left after four months of trying to get with a girl five years his senior! If that's not malicious then what is? I know the rock bottom is hitting someone you have been with for a long time. Inexcusable. That's malicious.

Anyway, questions.

Khatiz.

[Ashelen]

As usual.. Specialmom said it better ^

[Ashelen]

Hi Hamed I think we know who you are by now ;-). In reality no relationship is immune to being broken. In fact,  I think the strongest couples are strong BECAUSE they realize that they cannot take each other for granted and guard against losing each other. Not to say that strong couples live in fear,  but rather they practice every day loving and appreciating each other. What makes people end a relationship so painfully and abruptly is usually selfishness. Pure ane simple.

[specialmom]

Well, in truth, there is often another side to break ups.  Maybe the OTHER person is going through a rough time emotionally and the relationship is too much for them to handle.  Maybe they are not feeling it so the kindest thing to do is to end it before it goes on much longer.  Breaking up is never easy to do and is handled clumsily often.  Not on purpose a lot of the time.  

I've broken up with men before and it is hard.  Some you don't have huge feelings for and you just want it to be OVER.  They cared for you more than you did them, hence why you are breaking up.  The extent of the relationship can cause a break up to be short and sweet.  And some people have a hard time dealing with other people's emotions and just break it off abruptly and quickly to deal with as little of that as possible.

Going through a difficult time is a test to a relationship.  Very many will NOT survive a tough time.  Not all relationships are meant to last and we date to learn these things about people.  Maybe if someone is very emotional, depressed, etc. and going through a bad time it may seem bad to break up with them, but for the other person------------  why should they stay if they are miserable?  If the issues in the other person's life have caused the relationship to be chaotic, etc.  If all they are doing is consoling----  some people don't want that and will exit the relationship and that is their right.  

Not all relationships should go on.  And even though someone is often left hurting and wondering why, the other person has feelings too that are equally valid.  Remembering that when  you console someone is key.

So you say, what a jerk.  I'm sorry,  here if you need to talk.  But don't try to fix it.  Look it as your friend's opportunity to find a better relationship than that one.  goodluck