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Cheating Husband
I have a major problem. I found out this morn that I am miscarrying and came home to find my husband in bed with another women someone please tell me that I am going to be okay and any advice would be greatly appreciated
You are going to be okay and it is better you found out the whole truth now. You must kick him to the curb
Maybe you can find a separation support group in a church or community center to help you.
It is going to be painful and difficult in the days ahead.
You must make plans for how to take care of yourself (preferably not moving home to momma). He is the scoundrel, make him do the work and pay his half of the rent until you decide what direction the relationship will go.
Maybe you can find a separation support group in a church or community center to help you.
It is going to be painful and difficult in the days ahead.
You must make plans for how to take care of yourself (preferably not moving home to momma). He is the scoundrel, make him do the work and pay his half of the rent until you decide what direction the relationship will go.
Wondering how you are coping? I am in a similar situation and feel like my world is spinning out of control. We seperated in April with plans to reconsile. In early July at a counseling session he told me he slept with someone who he had known over 10 years ago. I flipped. He said it was only a one night stand and he wanted us to keep working. In the meantime, he wouldn't move back home. I found out in Sep that he moved her into his apartment in Aug. He told me to give him two weeks to settle things there and he would come home----well to both of our surprise she dropped the pregnant bomb---and it has been verified by blood test. Now he feels obligated to her but comes to me telling me just to be patient and that he doesn't love her and he is coming home----my head says RUN---my heart says wait. This sucks. Any words of wisdom?
my husband also cheated on me and the female is pregnant but she also slept with someone else around the same time so it may not be his... he has told me he wants to work on our marriage... he almost wanted a divorce cuz this girl was pressuring him but he realized he was makign a mistake but how do you again trust your husband after he cheats... on a side note this girl is his ex who from the time we got married she tried to get him to cheat on me... guess it finally worked... when someone cheats there are so many lies and deceit and even if it does stop how do you go about trusting again... its hard but i know that everyone has to remember its not them... its the person who cheats.... they are the jerks and we can make the choice to either forgive them or leave... i'm with the woman that said they dont want to have to start over.. I dont either and i'm gonna forgive my husband but i dont know if i will ever trust him again...
my husban is a christian and i found out the he is the most horrible man of the world he sleep with any woman in the community his mon and dad was a pastors he grow up in church!
I am so sorry! I know that everything will be ok but it takes time. I know exactly how you feel. I to just found out that my husband has been cheating on me with his old friend from school, who lives right down the road from us. I know that the first thing you must think about is your self and make sure that you are ok. Then start working on what to do with you and your marriage. My heart goes out to you.
I'm sorry! It's Hard. After sixteen years we got our son in 2003 and our doughter in 2006. I'm 35yrs. and I found out my husband for two years after I had my son he's been cheating on me with an older woman. I didn't find out until my doughter was born and she was two months old. It broke my heart. The bad thing is, is that I love my husband and my children. I don't want to be a divorse and a part time mom. I wanted to make things work. You know forgive and forget. I thought things were going good for my husband and I after we confronted about the cheating. But now my doughter is almost seven months old and I found out he is still cheating on me with the same woman.
He told me he is done with her, but he is't. Is it true "once a cheating man always a cheating man." I'm to old to start over and my children are to young.
He told me he is done with her, but he is't. Is it true "once a cheating man always a cheating man." I'm to old to start over and my children are to young.
I to have just found out that my husband has been cheating on me for a few months and now the other women is 4 months pregnant after my husband and I not being able to conceive a child for 4 years. I have no idea why these men do what they do but sometimes I wish I was pregnant so that I can somehow take it as a sign that maybe I am meant to work it out with my husband and then on the other hand I am glad that I am not. I hope that it all works out for everyone. One thing that I'm learning is one day at a time. Keep your heads up.
hi i am sorry to hear what happened to you and i hope that you will go trought it. i have a problem too. my husdand cheated on me and i found out a month ago. i have tried to work throught the marriage but it is getting very very hard for me to forgive him and the worst thing is that i just found out that i am pregnant. i feel so down and can't stop crying since i found out that i am pregnant.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. In time things will get easier.
I have been through both the miscarriage and the cheating husband, although not at the same time.
You definately need to take care of yourself first. Stay with relatives or friends and surround yourself with the love and support you need right now.
As for your husband, I don't even know what to say. You may want to take some time to get yourself together emotionally. The only thing that I can say from experience on that front is my ex-husband cheated from the moment we married until I divorced him four years later, only I didn't know until the end. Some men can change and others are just wired that way. Some good couples therapy would be a good start when your ready.
Best of luck to you. Things will get better, I promise :)
I have been through both the miscarriage and the cheating husband, although not at the same time.
You definately need to take care of yourself first. Stay with relatives or friends and surround yourself with the love and support you need right now.
As for your husband, I don't even know what to say. You may want to take some time to get yourself together emotionally. The only thing that I can say from experience on that front is my ex-husband cheated from the moment we married until I divorced him four years later, only I didn't know until the end. Some men can change and others are just wired that way. Some good couples therapy would be a good start when your ready.
Best of luck to you. Things will get better, I promise :)
I am sorry to hear about what happened to you! I can't imagine what you are going through right now. The only thing I can tell you is that you will get through this. I think at this point you should take a deep breath and put yourself first and try your best to relax. (for your health) And then when you are ready, it is time to confront your husband and talk to him....
((HUGS))
PlateletGal
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