Hi. I remember your post from before. On the surface, this guy is completely nuts. But I want you to make sure that you haven't done anything to encourage this kind of behavior. The fact that you feel a little jealous that your coworker is receiving attention from him worries me a little. I agree with the others that you must cut off any socializing with him. I think you are going to have to convince yourself that he and his attention are not worth risking your marriage for. Then you'll have to be strong. I wish you luck and hey-------- go do something fun with your hubby!
Wow, this results in a negative work environment, breaking company policies and sexual harrasment and otential problems in your marriage (and this friendly flirting has got to stop immediately on your part).
It's really important that you respect your marriage and not do anything in your relationship that you would not want your husband to do to you.
If he approaches you again, firmly tell him that if he continues speaking to you in an unprofessional, sexual harrassing manner, you will be forced to bring it to the attention of his manager and human resources. Tell him that he is causing a negative work environment and it is illegal. You job should be of professionalizm and mutual respect with coworkers and that's it. I'm surprised that your husband does not question this mans phone number on the cell bill, but I also have to say that your behavior has been unexceptable and inexcusable and it's time to fix it or start looking for another job.
I am proud of you for standing your ground! I cannot stand men that come on THAT strong and think they are God's gift to women. IMO, I think the reason you are upset is because of what you said, that you are no longer the object of his affection. Does your husband still show you lots of attention? It's nice to know that we are attractive and that we "still got it" because after being with one person for so long, sometimes that part of the relationship dies down a lot and sometimes to nothing at all. You may be lacking attention in your marriage so to be noticed by someone else felt good...even if it was by a no good jerk! LOL!
As for telling your co-worker, I wouldn't do that, I'd just go straight to the boss! This guy needs to be stopped! The work place is NOT a bar, it's where you come to work, earn your pay and go home. I hope he gets a good punch in the gut one day...LOL!
I say, cut the friendly chit-chat and stop socializing with him... and, if he continues to push it... remind him that his behavior/ remarks (especially, if it's occurring at work) constitutes sexual harassment which can be reported to management and/or your department of Human Resources.