Confused 39 year old male virgin - What should I do?

[Eastwood1995]

Yes my question is correct. I'm a 39 year old virgin man. First off I'm not unattractive. I'm height/weight proportionate and have been called handsome and a gentleman many times by friends girlfriends and wives. For some reason socializing with women has been a weak point for me. I've never been on a "date." I've only kissed a girl twice. I'd like to have a relationship with a committed girlfriend/wife. However the more and more time goes by I just get more confused and depressed over this situation of mine. One person I confided in telling them about my situation told me my first time should really be with my wife. I understand the suggestion, at the same time I don't want to be the cliche 40 year old virgin which will happen soon if I have no luck. I find dating websites as scams just taking your money. Twice I've tried Match, no deal. I messaged women that were good matches and never any responses. I'm currently a full-time college student where there are lots of attractive ladies I've talked to. Unfortunately they are all 20 years younger and/or have boyfriends. I hang out with my cousins and their friends but they also are 10-12 years younger along with any female friends of theirs. What should I do? Any help would be great. Thank you.

[specialmom]

So, what else you do besides school?  Do you also work?  Do you work out?  Any sports?  Any hobbies? I think these are great ways to meet someone.  If you like to, go to a running shoe store and join their running club (they all have them and people at all levels join),  do an exercise class on a regular basis where you get to know other people, join a book club, etc.  

As to being a virgin.  Hey, some people save themselves for marriage.  I don't think just sex is going to solve your problems here.  I would try to work on your social life and ASK someone out on a date.  So, they may say no.  But some will say yes and all dates are practice.  So, push yourself.  good luck

[Eastwood1995]

As of right now I do not work. Hobbies are pretty much Photoshop, video editing, and scrapbooking. I don't know, maybe I wasn't meant to have sex?

[specialmom]

Who we are in life should be fluid.  We grow, we develop, we transform.  So, you've done certain things in your life that are a bit solitary and perhaps there is room to branch out.  This is what I mean by pushing yourself.  When I was single, I realized that I would be less likely to meet someone if I didn't work on myself.  By that I mean, find new things to try and do.  :>)  Look at it like a challenge.  What things sound remotely interesting to you that would put you around more people?  

You are in school full time?  could you get a part time job?  I only ask because I think this makes for a well rounded person who is almost 40 to work and go to school rather than being a full time student.  If this isn't possible, when will you complete your degree and enter the work force?  

So, think about ANYTHING new you can do and go for it.  I agree it is harder to meet people at your age at the college you are at.  But try some of the other things I mentioned to get you out there.  

If you are lonely, you don't have to be.  But don't make sex your primary focus.  good luck

[Eastwood1995]

I think the main issue with sex is that from time to time I'm around my cousins and their friends and some of them are so open to talking about their sexual experiences they have frequently. While I don't mention my lack of experience, I always get angry inside because it seems so easy for them. I'm also like I want to know what it feels like? What is like to lay your body on a woman? What are the emotions both people feel?

[specialmom]

Start slow.  Ask someone out for a date.  Don't expect any sex.  Just buy them lunch or a drink or something.  See how that goes.  Work on your overall social skills first and once you have dating down . . .  sex will follow most likely.  good luck