Confused about giving up on my ex

[evaus]

So i met this guy and we started of as friends. We would hang out a lot. And spend hours on the phone and texting all day. I wasen't attracted to him. But i liked his personality very much.He was honest and kind and always knew how to make me laugh.We also shared the same interests. After a couple of months we decided to get together. And it was like best thing ever. He would always call me to say good morning or goodnight or to simply say he loved me. But we had a little problem i smoke and drink and he doesn't! so he began tripping on me. And once he asked me if i was a virgin i said no, and he was dissappointed! since he is.. he told me he wanted to have sex till marriage. I thought he was mr. perfect. And after a few month i would see him flirting BIG time with girls. Even with a couple of my friends! i wouldn't tell him much. Untill once it got out of hand. And he told me he was sorry that he flirts because he had being single for a very very long time. and he was tryign to get used to us being together. The flirting continued... And he was like a mood swinger. He would be really nice to me one minute and the next he would act all weird. And get mad for the smallest things. And it got to the point where i would have to call him since he wouldnt i would have to text him because he wouldnt. When i would tell him i love you. he wouldnt answer back. And i would get fed up with his flirting with otehr girls and i would try to break up with him. But he always wanted to work things out. And we always did.

But that kept happening. And i was very tired of it.
So one time we didn't talk for a whole weekend untill sunday night. I text him and we broke up. He told me that the reason why we should break up was because i drink way too much! and that he loves me. but we were better off as friends. And that he wanted continue talking to me and seening me as friends, And maybe in the future we would get back.

So we still kept talking like friends.. i tried getting back with him twice because i couldn't do it... I missed him so much! But he said we were good as friends and that we should give it time.
After a while... I started talking to some girls that know him, and they told me that he would flirt with them when me and him were together..
And he also flirted with my best friend!
And i told him off!
we stopped talking for 2 weeks.
And just this weekend we began talking again.
We hung out on saturday and he was telling me he felt like kissing.. He flirts with me. But he nevers mentions anything about getting back. Supposively him he loves me but he flirts with other girls.
I want him bad. But i don't wanna try to get back with him because i don't know if he really loves me? I don't know what to think or do?
what is your advice to me?

[specialmom]

Hi.  Well, this does not sound good at all.  First, he doesn't sound like he was a great boyfriend to you.  He was inattentive, not caring of how he made you feel by flirting with girls in front of you, he had mood swings, and anger issues.  Yuck.  This is not someone you should be pining away for.  Secondly, he has been clear.  He does not want to date you.  Why do you want to be with someone that doesn't value you or see you as someone they'd be honored to be with?

I'm sorry because I know you feel like you really like him but I just don't see this as a good situation for you.  And . . . some people we just can NOT be friends with.  He stirs up emotions in you.  So you don't have to tell him "we can't be friends" but put distance between yourself and him and eventually have him be almost no part of your life.  I think it is really hard to move on when someone we want is still in our radar all of the time.  And ... I think it is cruel to tell you that "maybe" somday you will get back together.  Keeps you on the leash.  And maybe he has an issue with attention and wanting to feel wanted by everyone.  Hence the flirting with everyone and not wanting to let you go completely because he likes the secondary gain of you wanting him badly.  Yuck, again. You do not need this.

Break it off, keep your distance and look for someone that is worthy of your attention.  good luck

[cheshchesh819]

Just get out of this situation,it is obvious he wants you to be everything that he is and you aint so it will never work,you are young so just enjoy yourself and put this guy on the back burner and find someone who will except you for who you are

[JSSlade212010]

I'm no expert. But its best that you just move on. The worst relationship to be in is one that is confusing. One day he's happy and in love the next day he's flirting and wants to be friends. Find someone who wants the same thing out of a relationship as you. And work together to achieve that goal. Don't keep going back because he'll just disappoint you more.

Good luck!