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Considering of leaving

So the argument got hot today. Our 1 year old nappies ran out of stock and when i asked to fill the stock the answer was 'i do not have money' and when asked where is the money gone the answer is ' i had to give someone'its been a few days that am saying we are running out of stock. So the argument got hot and he slap he hard on the face. I pushed him and caused nail marks on him. To finish dragging me out of the bed and causing my waist to hit the floor when he know vey well i have been complaining about back pain. I provide mostly for mu baby and only when he got a few bucks left he will get something for him. We been married for 4 years and o cannot tolerate it anymore. I have  been abuse mentally since last year about how to grow up that angel. His so called daddy does not work and am a housewife. I spent every penny i had on nappies  and food and he expect me to have money in the bank. I really want to go to my parents place and take my son with me but he would not let me.
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973741 tn?1342342773
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Hi sweetie.  Oh, very VERY sorry to hear this.  I understand you wanting to go and it is time to make that happen. You have to do it safely.  Don't do it in front of him but get a plan together.  Call your parents and have an exit strategy that is covert (secret).  I would also suggest taking 10 dollars a week until you can make it happen (or more if you can) and putting it in a hidden place.  Just cash you may need immediately when you leave.

But you see that you have to go.  You have a little sweet boy to think of who wants a peaceful home.  Peaceful with just mommy is much better than volatility abuse going on with a father who hurts mom.  

I'm going to send you some resources via pm that are abuse hotlines.  These are great help and can give you suggestions for how to leave.  Look for that and let me know if you don't know how to get to yrou private messages (pm stands for that).  It's on yoru profile page where you access your messages.  This will be sent shortly

Begin making a plan.  Make this escape happen.  We are here to support and help you in any way we can.  Hugs and PEACE
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Just call your parents and go. Life is way too short to keep putting up with abuse from anyone. You wouldn't want your son to end up being abusive towards his future girlfriend or wife do you? Because that is enacting what week happen if you stay. I guarantee that your boyfriend or husband whatever he is, grew up in an abusive home and that's the reason why he abuses you. If you don't get your son out, he will end up just like him. I'm sure you don't want that so get the hell out of there today! Call your parents and get out.
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You two sound super young and this is definitely NO environment for a child.  

If you call the police someone is going with them; maybe both of you.  If both of you are taken you might be looking at domestic violence charges and where would that leave your child?

"I really want to go to my parents place and take my son with me but he would not let me."..............Pack bags for you and your little one and CALL your parents or someone to come and get you.  

You two don't need to be together period.
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144586 tn?1284666164
You have my sympathies. Give yourself a hug. You deserve much better than this individual. Keep a notebook with time and dates of all incidents. You need to locate a facility that provides counseling and legal advice to battered women. The police option is always there, but it is the nuclear option.
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3149845 tn?1506627771
Hi and sorry what your going through. I would suggest calling the police but since he is the one with a mark on his face they might arrest you for domestic violence. I would suggest calling your parents and get help from them.
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