Depressed even though blessed with everytging in life

[iamexpecting]

I hv a very loving hus who is currently working in a different country. I work in a different country.after 5yrs of marriage Im pregnant now but i cannot stay with my husband abroad due to certain leave restrictions at work place. Tried every option. But it seems impossible.so i would probably deliver my baby staying at my parents house in my home country. DH would only be able to meet the baby after delivery as he cannot be with me during my delivery. In our country nobody is allowed in labour room not even husband.as he is on a project abroad he wont be getting leave for more than 10days and i cant travel abroad with him. Even after 5yrs of marriage we have to stay apart. After completing his project when he comes back to our country again we have to face the same situation. He is working in a different state. Im working in a different state. Cannot think of leaving the job bcos i got this job aftr a lot of hard work. Clearing exams and interviews. Finally after 2yrs of preparation for this job i cleared the exams and got selected. And we cant be sure about my husbands job as he is in a private sector. He may have his job today but cant be sure of tomorow.we have financial debts and going to have a baby so both cant think of quitting the job. Guess we have to live entire life like this.mom dad and child meeting together just once in a year i guess

[specialmom]

Ah, this makes me sad.  I really don't think you can or should live like this for much longer let alone the rest of your life.  Yes, get skype and stay in touch that way daily.  BUT, you need to speak to your husband regarding long range plans.  Honestly, NO job is worth this type of lifestyle.  One of you can change.  If your job is the count on, stable, consistent job, then you stay working and he quits his current job and finds work doing something similar in your area.  OR, you must realize that while your job is good, you will find another similar near your husband.  You haven't because you haven't had to.  Leaving your job will make you have to find that job near him.  It is hard for me to relate on a cultural level as I'm from the states and we an freely make change in our lives to suit us---  but regardless, family should be valued in any culture and making some sacrifice and hard decisions putting family first is in order here.  good luck

[Nighthawk61]

You have many blessings, that i'm glad that you are grateful, however you also have hardships that many do not have to deal with. the absence of a husband and a long distance relationship. I think you need to talk to a therapist about your depression, and learn how to effectively deal with it. You can also go on the Depression Community and read how others combat depression, and maybe post about how to best handle long distance relationships and it might be helpful to you. Do you skype daily?