Dont want to loose my marriage..help

[rayray8019]

I have known my wife for over 10 years been married for 6 years been separeted for 3 years. Shes is adorable in every sence of the word but the sex is no longer exciting for me and has not been exciting for a long time. I have 3 friends on the side with benefits they already know am married so when we hook up is only for sex. these 3 friends are open to doing different things in bed which my wife is not. I hate the fact that am a cheat and I know my wife deserves better. I have tried so much to stop cheating but I always end up doint it. I know eventually all things done in secret come to the light I want to stop so bad but I dont know how to.

[specialmom]

typo------- change 'on woman' to 'one woman'.  

[specialmom]

So, I don't get your post, to be honest.  Married or seperated?  Sounds like you are seperated and have been so for half of your total marriage.  And this sounds like marriage in name only.

I think that you should not be with on woman.  You don't sound like you want to be as you even need THREE 'on the sides'.  So why pretend?

Set your wife free to find a man who will marry her and mean it.  This is not trying to be cruel to you or rude----------- but honestly, . . . honesty.  Be honest with yourself.  You aren't her husband at all at this point.  You are a guy with a lot of women and she is one of them . . .  and if she knew about the others, she might not want to be.  And if she does know, she needs some therapy.

Okay, set this woman free and go live your super sexy single life!  good luck

[AUSTIN431]

first of all i have to say what about std's ? 3 other women gross if it was my husband i would never forgive him for putting me at risk that way but if you separated how are you cheating? and how much of this sex is not exciting for you information does she know? it sounds like more of a excuse to me and i don't know what your into now but you can't suddenly change a sexual relationship it has to be like any other kind of relationship you both have to want to change it and you have to work at it some women are shy about sex stuff or they were raised to think certain things are not right to do and some never change their minds about that so its been at least three years if she doesn't want what you want anymore sexually let each other go so you can find someone more suited to you but i want to point out you said you couldn't "help" cheating so it might not help to find some else more sexually suited until you find out why you need to cheat with so many women maybe you like the possibility of almost being caught i don't know but i would suggest you get some help from a professional before you do anything else