Ex-marine with TBI

[Ssally141]

I dated an ex marine that was hit with an IED and got a TRaumatic Brain Injury. He is stuck in an electric chair. He can move his rleft arm fine and left not so much. His speech is slow and at times hard to understand. At the begging of our relationship he was super sweet. Then he just kind of stopped slowly. We dated for like 7 months. Some times he would just stop talking to me and I understood that because he got into his depression and had thoughts of killing himself. I know that coming back from war is hard. He would worry me when he wouldn't t answer me or contact me. He had time for social networks but not to text me and say I'm fine I need some time. I think I was patient enough because I love him to put up with this. Was I wrong in ending the relationship? Also I started birth control with him after not being sexually active for like 7 years. We did get some pregnancy scares about 3 times when started BC. I communicated with him about this stuff because I think it's the right thing to do when in a relationship. Am I wrong? Well he got scared this last time and said he didn't want anything to do with me or baby if I were to be pregnant becausehe is tired of pregnancy scares. Why did he say that?

[Ssally141]

Thank you :(. Just hard to understand that pregnancy scares was the second factor of the end of the relationship. I really hope that he some day gets out of that chair and lives happily.  I did contact his mom to let her know the first time he told me about him thinking to kill himself 3 months into the relationship.  She said she would get back to me, but never did.  I wonder if he says that a lot. He does see a psychiatrist though once a week.

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  No.  While it was hard and I feel very badly for your boyfriend, you have to think of yourself.  You were not married to him and just dating.  Therefore, you are right to decide if a relationship isn't working and to leave it.  That is taking care of yourself.  

It's hard and feeling guilty in a situation like this is natural.  But, you can't tie yourself to a bad relationship because of feeling badly for someone.

If the person has a parent of sibling that you could mention his depression to and the talk of killing himself, that would be a good thing to do.  

peace and luck to you