I have to try to keep this short...
My fiance and I have been together for 13 months, living together for 10 months, and engaged for 9 months. You can already tell that our relationship moved fast. We have had a speedy, somewhat stormy, up and down year together. We've had some tough times, but nothing that has ever made us want to give up. It was a fairytale case of "love at first sight" for us and after our first date, we knew instantly that we were meant to be together. Despite our tough times, we BOTH still feel this way and do everything we can to make things work.
At times, when things got difficult and we felt alone or confused, we would go to our close friends and family for support, comfort, and/or advice. Unfortunately, but somewhat understandably, disclosing our problems to our family has conjured some sour feelings from them.....
A few days ago, my fiance and I reached a breaking point in our communication and I left and moved my stuff out (with the help of my parents). I stayed with my parents for these few days during this difficult time and asked my fiance to move out and on. This was a time of sheer pain, confusion, fright, anger, helplessness, hopelessness, and aloneness for both of us.
Bottom line... My fiance and I wholeheartedly agree that it's not that we can't live without eachother, it's that we are NOT done. We do not want to give up. We are completely crazy, in love with eachother and have a level of understanding that nobody will ever be able to see. We learn from each and every tough time we have, we thoroughly discuss and dissect everything and learn from our mistakes and our differences. We KNOW we are meant to be. We want to be together forever so bad and will do everything to work on our relationship.
For us to know that we are doing the right thing and doing EVERYTHING we can to make this work, we agreed to take one step back in order to take 2 steps forward. We are 'separating'. I will live with my parents for a few months and he will live with his best friend for a few months. We will still be in a commited, monogomous relationship. We will have date nights and see eachother on the weekends, but we will live and sleep separately. We are using this as a time to reflect on ourselves, on our relationship, save money, and get back on our feet individually. We know exactly what we need to do. We just need the time and the space to think things through individually.
We are NOT getting support from our friends and family. They only see the tough times we've been through because we've gone to them for support... We feel that NOBODY sees what we truly have... It's just been difficult for my fiance and I during this SENSITIVE time for us. It's a time where we want to focus on eachother and we are stressing about our friends and family's opinions, dissapprovals, etc. My family's support is tremendously important to me and I dont know how to handle this.... Any suggestions?