Father- daughter inappropriate contact

Question

I find it very inappropriate and disgusting.I am in a situation where the man I am dating has 6 children with six different women.He impregnated three women the same year and never followed up about this girl who is 17.She searched for him and apparently found him.At first I accepted the hugging and fondling that maybe because they have not seen each other for 17 years.I have my own kids, girl 17 and boy 15 years of age and I find that awkward when my fiancee's girl climb over him on the sofa and whispers in his ear ..ALWAYS as if they are having sex...and in the presence of my kids

Spoton · Answer

Ohhh thank you Nighthawk61 ...I felt bad initially when I chased them both out of my house.I loved him but after realizing this awkward behaviour I just thought "enough is enough", I am better of without this loser who has no respect for women and himself to be precise! You are now my family and thank you for the best advice.Sometimes women we get stuck in such horrible relationship and fail to get out ending up doing the unthinkable.Thank - you ever soo much...

Nighthawk61 · Answer

I'm so happy to hear  that you are moving on from this loser of a man. Let us know how you're doing, There are times your resolve may be weak, so be sure to write to us if you start to slip up and let him back into your life. You can message anyone of the people who now care about your situation. You and you girl are important. and you need friends. So i hope that you can consider us your friends.

Spoton · Answer

Kkk thanx for the tip...we never reached that far.He is indeed a loser.

Spoton · Answer

He is weird.Thanx for the advice.I an moving on with my life.I shut my doors from him.

Spoton · Answer

Thanx Anne, I was brave enough to say goodbye and am moving on with my life...

Spoton · Answer

Thank you ever soo much for your advices...I have since told him off and chased him out of my house.He has a very weird behaviour.I am trying to move on and have blocked his contact.

Nighthawk61 · Answer

ditto AnnieBrooke
ditto Rock Rose
ditto SpecialMom
ditto Chima7
ditto Londres70
ditto AnnieBrook again
ditto TTinKKerBBell

Onward and Upward. Your child needs the best example, not the worst. 
All you CAN do is be the best example You can be for your child, and ALOT of that has to do with who YOU allow near your children as your significant other. Work on You not choosing in any way shape or form someone like you did.by choosing this man. Your kids don't have the time to share you with the likes of him. They would be better off with no male role model than this one. You have a choice, to find a wonderful male role model for real, If you lack the confidence to go for the best, you can learn that from a therapist. Many time we have lowered expectations of the opposite sex through no fault of our own. Maybe you could use the help of a mentor (therapist) that could get you over any possible feelings of inadequacy? (if it exists) Wishing you the best. You and your  kids deserve it.

TTinKKerBBell · Answer

ditto AnnieBrooke
ditto Rock Rose 
ditto SpecialMom
ditto Chima7
ditto Londres70
ditto AnnieBrook again

AnnieBrooke · Answer

Especially, your children.  What are they thinking when they see their mother falling for this user and apparent sleazeball toward women?

Londres70 · Answer

Ditto the above posters.  

I would take my children and LEAVE.

Chima7 · Answer

Dump this guy already! He's got baby mamas coming out of every direction, and that's only the ones you're aware of! For all you know, there could be many more! Why even bother taking the chance? Whatever you do, don't get pregnant by this guy, that would make things so much worse! Leave him before you have an "accident" or something!

specialmom · Answer

Hi there.  Well, he doesn't sound like a prize to be honest.  I agree with the other that there is a bit of character lacking on his part.  He never followed through and his daughter who is 17 had to look him up?  What about child support?  He owes her a lot of money.

AND, on top of that, he is being sexual with his kid?  You are blaming her but he's the adult. And a man in a relationship.  

I'd move on and like pronto and sincerely would not allow my daughter in his presence.  good luck

RockRose · Answer

I completely agree.

What kind of man gets 3 different women pregnant in the same year?  

I really don't understand why other women put up with that - after getting more than one woman pregnant in a year,  you'd think all other women would be hands off and he would be without a partner,  forever.  

But 6?  

Anyway,  I hope you're taking birth control and don't become the 7th.

Best wishes.

AnnieBrooke · Answer

I would not be dating a man with six children by six different women.  That is such a red flag -- he was never married to any of them?  Then what kind of a long-term relationship prospect is he?  About nil.

The girl's behavior is not as much of a problem as his in allowing it.  She might not know there is such a thing as boundaries (where was she going to learn them?) but he is old enough to understand that boundaries exist, and also should be willing to give her the parental instruction that boundaries do exist.  

Say goodbye to this loser now.