Father's rights ?

[le_chinadoll_]

I'm 29 weeks pregnant and I live in Houston Texas .. Me and the babies father got into it really bad .. How do I keep him from having 0 rights with my child

[Londres70]

"(and babies are never pawns between man and woman no matter what goes on with them and shouldn't be used in a fight as a threat "you'll never see your kid" and that type of thing.)"..............SM

Ditto SM!

Good luck.

[Jinx_777]

calm down.  you asked for opinions and you got them.  

glad to hear things are going well at the moment.

some things to consider--

putting his name on the birth certificate.  if you think it is possible that you will have issues in the future, don't put his name on the birth certificate.  just leave the father's name blank.  give it your last name.

that way he will have to prove it is his child to even begin to fight you.  that takes time and energy and money.

but, if he is not abusive then i would allow him to be in the baby's life.  

[specialmom]

Sweetie, these are not negative comments.  You asked a question and people answered it.  If it is no longer relevant, then so be it but no reason to get upset.  People took the time to help you.  It's the internet---  people ONLY have to go on what you wrote.  And if that is where your head goes when you are 'just mad'---  you get really mad.  But that is okay.  Glad it worked out.  good luck  (and babies are never pawns between man and woman no matter what goes on with them and shouldn't be used in a fight as a threat "you'll never see your kid" and that type of thing.)  

[le_chinadoll_]

I'll appreciate if NO BODY COMMENTS BACK !! DONT NEED YOUR NEGATIVITY !

[le_chinadoll_]

Omg just stop this was a while back okay a lot of things have changed ever since !! Y'alljust simply DON'T know a damn thing I've gone through with the father ! AND NO IM NOT KEEPING HIM AWAY FROM HIS CHILD !! I WAS JUST PISSED OFF AT THAT SPECIFIC MOMENT I WROTE THIS POST !! SO JUST KEEP YOUR NEGATIVE COMMENTS TO YOUR SELF OK THANKS :)

[TMMB]

Even if he is a cheater and he doesn't spend his money as you think he should does not mean you should rob your child of their father or him of his child; his cheating and money spending may be a reason for you to not have a relationship with him, but not to take his kids away!

[asherz123]

Well its not true what people say that they wont give the baby to the dad. My husband has cusdoty of his daughter and has her whole life and it was the judge that did it and it was not because the mom was unfit or any of that. Dads have all equal rights to kids. Sorry i know it ***** but they do its there child to he can even take u to court before the baby is born to make sure he is in that babys life. So i would say it would be tough to keep him away unless he wants nothing to do with ur child.

[nickizzy]

Sorry if it sounds harsh but just because the father doesn't seem to want to be a good partner to you doesn't mean he should have his parental rights taken away. How would you feel if it was reversed and u treated him like crap because you didn't want to be with him and he tried taking away your rights. Unless a court decides otherwise he would still get the bare minimum visitation rights of every other weekend and would have to pay you child support.

[ThoughtIwasDone14]

I completely agree. If he's not on the birth certificate then he has no rights. And if he wants to fight then he has to pay to go to court and do so.

[nonishy]

Just don't put his name on the birth certificate.  And do what you want to do, until he decides to take you to court

[1rm1a1]

I know it's hard to accept that he has other woman but that doesn't mean he won't be a good dad .. If what you're trying to do is get to him by not letting him see the baby let me tell you that its only going to affect the baby .. Now if he is a dead beat dad then that's another story .. you really need to sit down and think the reason you are doing it .. My son's dad has not been in his life since my son was born, it was his choice, I tried taking to him but he chose to leave

[AngePants]

Don't get upset if people voice their opinions. You post in a public forum. That being said I do get why you would want him out of the picture because he may be more damaging than helpful to the child and if that is the case I would start logging things he does. Maybe talk with a lawyer. You're best bet is to leave him now before the baby is born and go it alone if he is as selfish as you say he is. But, if he does at some point decided to fly right and shows consistency, don't hold the child from him, I'm not saying you would, I'm just saying.

[newmommytyra]

As a mother you call all the shots
When the baby comes home he/she goes home with you. You can do what ever u want, no judge will give the man custody unless he can prove the mother unfit.
I would say try to work it out but if he is disrespectful or you dont want him around you call the shots ;)

[lilpianogirl85]

The above is correct, you can't keep him from having rights because he is the father. It might be wrong and frustrating for him to be making these choices but it doesn't show he is an unfit parent. You can put him on child support so he has to help you but from what it sounds like he will still have partial custody.

[le_chinadoll_]

Yea I guess it is selfish for me to just work my but off to provide for a child we both created while he's out being a loser talking to other girls and spending his money on non sense

[bsconcerned]

You cant... its his child too. unless a judge were to find him an unfit parent. That's very selfish to do something like that just because you two got in a fight.