Feeling depressed..

[Indieee]

Today was my baby's first Christmas and all I want to do is cry.. I'm the best mother that I can be at only 16. And many older women compliment me on how good of a mother I am. But honestly I feel like a really bad one.. My son's father has not called, texted, or even attempted to contact me to even see my son on his first major holiday. I feel so ashamed that I gave my son a crappy dad. My sons father and I do NOT talk at all. He never even texts me to see how my son is doing. I just want to cry so much right now.. My son doesn't deserve this. I know we're both young, but when things happen you must step up, especially if it is your fault. I'm doing this on my own and I'm so proud of myself for it. I don't regret my son, but I do regret who he's by.. I just really need some advice ony situation or someone to talk to. I honestly don't have anyone to talk about this to. Is anyone else going through the same situation? I don't see how any person on this earth can abandon their own flesh and blood. Just why?

[lennybby]

Be strong girl its hard specially being so young everyone goes through hard situations but is up to you to survive it and be strong so hold on things will get better just keep God in your life.

[CaitlinApplegate294]

I understand my son father is the same way. I asked him yo sign his rights away and his response was no cause it's the o.lying thing I have to toy with you... he has only seen his son twice since he been born and he is now one. I'm so done with him.. I know even though my son dad is not here he is very much loved. Keep your head up girl... he son will know and understand when he gets older.

[Indieee]

I needed to hear this.. Thank you all so much!

[marindamqz]

Girl, don't let a boy make you feel this way. Think about it, in 5 years, your son will remember YOU. In 10 years, he'll remember YOU. In 30 years, he'll remember YOU. Please, I beg of you, please raise a man. Not a boy who goes the wrong route because "daddy wasn't there". No ma'am. Be a stronger woman than that. Raise him to respect a woman and be a man. Raise him to be the MAN of your house, don't show him how to be weak like daddy. Raise him with respect and responsibility. Show him all that mom can do and all that dad is missing out on. Trust me, he'll grow up to be a man. It's not going to be easy, and you'll spend nights like tonight crying, but don't let him bring you down because that brings your son down. Play hard and pray harder. Give it everything you got, mom's putting food on the table, mom's teaching you right from wrong, and mom's stepping up because a boy couldn't handle that job. Good luck in everything you do.

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Hun u are already doing it i know ut hurts it kills me knowing i could have been so stupid to be with a guy like that but god is great and ur son has a father through god so don't be sad he.has the best fathrr in the world i love my son and i.noe how u feel.but if i.let that be on my mind all the time im not doing myself or my son a favor because they see that and i noe my son is better off and just knowing i have my lil man it makes me push harder my baby just like ur son has a strong momma dont let a guy make u feel like hes needed xuz hes not trust me hes not needed ur all ur baby needs and ull.learn that

[kdbird]

Some boys don't grow up to be men for a while....or at all.  Be the best mom you can be and hope for the best.

[bryleefulk12]

I totally understand where you are coming from. My daughters father got me pregnant when I was 18, we worked together. And when he found out, he wanted nothing to do with us. Now I'm 19 and just waiting for her to arrive. Trust me it does get better. I was lucky enough to meet the man I'm now with, and he has been there my whole pregnancy even though it isn't his. Keep your head up (:

[RockRose]

And to answer your question,  why do men act this way,  it's because women allow it.  Women two generations ago wouldn't tolerate this crap.  In Lexiiss case,  a woman wouldn't have sex with a man who had another baby and wasn't taking care of that baby and had abandoned that woman.  Men who behaved like that were outcasts.  Now,  there are women lined up who are completely happy to be the 2nd,  3rd,  and 4th baby mama with no expectation that the man stay with them.  

If women would stop giving sex to men who behave like these jerks,  men would stop doing it.  As it is now,  it's a win win situation for them.  They can have tons of women and there are no consequences at all.  

[mummainoz]

Unfortunately you can't force someone to be a good dad and you can't control how they act or what they say, they have to take some responsibility and decide for themselves what kinf of parent they want to be and what kind of relationship they want with their child. It sounds like you have already decided the type of mum you want to be and doing a good job to be a great one. Try to keep in mind you can feel sorry for the way things are but ultimately it is up to him therefore all you can do is focus on your own relationship with your child and then he will always know that he has his mum. Have a great Christmas!

[RockRose]

What's done is done,  Indieee.  You can't redo who you had this baby with. All you can do is move forward.  

He's not going to be there for you, or your son,  and if you look that square in the face and accept it and move on you'll be better off.  

Be proud of yourself for being a good mom,  and move on.  Your son is way too young to know it's Christmas,  and his dad isn't there.  Just love him up and keep swimming.  ;D

[Indieee]

That's so sad.. Why do men act this way??

[lexiiss_24]

Same for my son he's 2 years old and his dad is only around when he feels like it and now his dad has another baby n pays more attention to that child then his first