Ok, im 25 my GF is 22. we have been together for only 4 months. 4 weeks ago i found out that she was sexting guys and having skype sessions with them. Also she has sent pics to guys on a dating website. when i confronted her she just left. a couple of days later she came back and apologized and said she just wanted attention. i am a very attentive man. not smothering but attentive and very polite and romantic. we have been trying to repair our relationship for 4 weeks and have had sex 1 time. when i try she pulls away from me and gets angry and defensive when i try and talk to her about it. i have tried numerous times to talk about it and she just shuts down. she tells me she wants children with me which is why im confused about the no sex? i have also found out that she masterbates whenever i am not home even after i try to come on to her before i leave. i dont know what is wrong but it is def pushing me away. PLEASE HELP
Why are you compelled to make a relationship work with this woman who clearly isn't in any kind of shape for a relationship? You've only been together 4 months. I've had items to be taken to Goodwill in the back seat of my car longer than that!
My guess is she has a history of sexual abuse. She's uncomfortable with meaningful sex but extremely comfortable with meaningless, degrading, casual sexual behavior.
You can put more time in to this and become more entrenched and more hurt, or you can cut your losses and move on.
I read this as a Giant Red Flag. I would suggest You beware and be aware. Even if, as She said, She is/was doing this for attention, I would see this as alarming behavior and it wouldn't be a good idea to be in a hurry to make Babies. If, in fact, She wants more (or maybe, different) attention than You are giving Her, it would behoove You to go for couple's counseling - discover what Her need for attention is and why what You are already doing is not enough to suit Her.
You are dealing with this and have ONLY been together for four months? Then you go on to say she wants children?
This is ALL so wrong on so many different levels and in so many different ways.
She doesn't need a relationship at this point in her life. It is obvious she needs to sort out her issues by herself. If or when she will sort all this out....who knows. Sounds like she gets bored quickly with one guy after a period of time and hops to the next one and/or something in her past has caused this behavior. I wouldn't recommend "sticking around" in hopes that she will change or that things will go back to what they once were.
If you want a "REAL" committed, healthy and fulfilling relationship end this one and find someone who can give that to you. Its ONLY been 4 months and I wouldn't recommend wasting anymore time with this nonsense.
The best thing you can do for her is to encourage her to seek some kind of therapy to sort herself out. It is apparent she enjoys doing ANYTHING to get attention from men and she knows being sexual gets her this attention. Some woman just can't relate or handle a normal, healthy relationship because of their issues past and/or present.
I agree with all of the above, and have one more thing to add. Maybe she's considering you to father a baby for her, she may never be "ready" to commit, but her biological clock is ticking. She may want to use you as a baby maker. Be careful.
Buff, your 25 and have been around, Shes been your gf for 4 months and is already cheating on you! I believe she is telling you she wants to have your baby as tool to manipulate you. Dont fall for it, and she might get pregnant from another guy and say its yours. It also appears she has lost her sexual desire for you. Maybe something your not doing or are doing. Bottom line the twice a day sex is down to one a month. Walk away before your feelings really get hurt. Find a nice girl as you seen nice. I dont think the masterbating has anything to do with you but for her private monents only.
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