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Getting over my Ex
whats the most healthy way to get over my ex and move on she was my first love and im still stuck on her plz help
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I feel ya man, because I'm going through the same thing right now, and it feels like the end of the world. First of all, do not become overly upset..the last thing a guy needs is to become an emotional wreck and wallow in self-pity. It may hurt real bad but you have to find a way to carry on. An effective way to deal with an emotional crisis such as this is to get out and be physical, and by that I mean start jogging, or lift weights. A half hour of strenuous exercise will get the testosterone flowing through your body, and once you fully exert yourself you will feel great. Lying around in a slump wont do any good. I have been in that mode for the past four days and after that I decided enough is enough. You can't undo what has been done, so you gotta come to terms with it and get going again. Keeping old photos and notes around won't help either....you have to purge all memories of your past love in order to move forward, so start tearing those up or burn them...be creative. Avoid listening to radio stations that play sappy love songs, because that will completely reverse the healing process. Hit up your buds and go somewhere social where you can stare at girls and be flirty. Just offering a few helpful suggestions...feel better champ.
A breakup is very difficult and takes time to get over. You mourn a breakup as if something you loved has died...it's like a death. So, I recommend that you accept what you can't change with the realization that it is over. I would put away everything and anything that would remind me of him and in my case, I actually had to change my phone to avoid the temptation of calling him and we left in such bad terms. This is not for everyone, but worked for me. It's time to take care of you and surround yourself with loving family, good friends and take some time to just absorb what has happend. Get involved in things you like to or find new things to do, such as join a gym, take classes on what you like, you will meet a lot of new geat ppl and life has a way of always falling into place, so one day at a time. Also, invite your friends to a movie, dinner or dancing and when you feel sad, that is ok too...this too shall pass. Good luck.
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I agree with Cheshchesh. I'm probably a lot older as my first love is a distant memory. There have been men I've been face down in the carpet crying over that I couldn't care any less about now. You'll remember the first as special but it will be a memory just like any other. Hard to believe now but as a woman in my 40's and well past my first love------------ time will definately fade your pain. good luck
Oh-------- and staying really active is helpful to getting by as well as writing your feelings out in a journal. good luck
Oh-------- and staying really active is helpful to getting by as well as writing your feelings out in a journal. good luck
Time is a great healer,dont be rushed you do it in your own time,you will have good days and bad days,but you will eventually get on with life again,dont sit around dwelling or expecting things to get back to normal you have to start doing things again like socialising with friends,first love is always a killer when it ends but one day you will meet someone who will be the one.
everyone goes through this...it herts, but it's worth it. that is what life is all about. you will be alright. time will heal this.
Same thing happened to me a couple of months ago. I had my first girlfriend and we broke up after a month. It ruined my whole summer. Now I have one class with her, so....
My advice is the same as the above.
My advice is the same as the above.
it is always hard getting over your first love. Because this was your first love and heart-break you have not experienced moving on... You must be feeling like... you may never fall in love again, you miss her, how will you ever move on, etc... trust me, you will move on and get over it. you will fall in and out of love many times. Take the memories, and lessons learned and take it for what it is. It is only a matter of time. I always tell my clients to think of the heart-ache as something that has a time limit, like the flu. you have to trust that you will get over it, and that your time being sad is limited. I would avoid things that are a reminder (some music, movies, places, etc).
Distract yourself with friends, doing stuff that makes you happy. Remember, this will pass, it is only a matter of time. You will get over it and fall in love again.
good luck
Distract yourself with friends, doing stuff that makes you happy. Remember, this will pass, it is only a matter of time. You will get over it and fall in love again.
good luck
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