Girlfriend prioritise her friends over me

[leo_goh]

I am around 20, in the same school as my gf. We knew each other through this school. Before we start dating, she would request to go to toilet during lessons, then she would talk to me for 15 mins before going back. She would also sometime try her luck and wait on a path that i would take to go to my classroom. Sometimes, she would also buy snacks for me during my lesson when i request to go toilet and see her. On the other hand , i got a copy of her timetable, i will find her whenever possible, walk her to her classroom etc. However, when we start dating, things start to change, She isn't as willing to see me as before, she no longer take initiative to look for me, when i look for her, she will be with her friends. The worst part is she spent quite some time with a guy friend too. There was once when i woke up an hour earlier to go school to find her, when we were talking half way, the guy friend reached school too, she told me to wait and then went to find him and talk to him, after like waiting for 10 mins plus or so, she said nothing and left, i caught up with her and asked her where she going, she said she's going to look for her groups of friend. i know she do no have feeling towards the guy, he is just her best friend and she said she loves me a lot, and i wan to continue this relationship, but the way she act she does not makes me think she likes me. She don't even approach me when she saw me, not even to say a hi or what. Also, one time i went to find her and she told me she wants to be alone and asked me to leave her alone, even after i told her" but i don't want to be alone" she just told me to find my friends. Recently, we had an hour after school together, while wandering around the school(deciding what to do) she saw a friend. After talking to the friend for a few minutes, she told me that she is going to accompany her to study, she don't wan her to be alone, so she left me alone instead. Things like this happens quite often, and it really upset me a lot.i have talked to her about this, and she said its one of her bad habit that she tends to spend a lot time with her friend. however, if u like someone, shouldn't u wan to see him/her more than anyone else? shouldn't it be natural to look for him/her to spend more time with him/her?i don't really feel like talking to her about this anymore, because if she changed, she would be unwillingly changed, being forced to, the time spent together would not be nice anyway. And i want her to get what she want, if she wants her friends, then i hope she gets what she want. I really love her a lot and according to her, she love me a lot too, i really hope this relationship to work out, but the relationship isn't going well as for now, and i don't think one day she will suddenly wake up and realise her mistake and turn into a new leaf, what should i do?

[Nighthawk61]

Be the best you ,
that you can be....

[Nighthawk61]

The time that she gives to you, is all that she has to offer.
If you want to continue with this girl, if only to have experience with a girl,
then do so , but change how you look at it.

Maybe you should start to open yourself up to meeting new friends for yourself  to hang out with
and yes, that means that if you've made plans with your new friends, that you  don't break them just because there's a girl that you like...

make friends by joining clubs, school groups, after school gyms , working part time

then you'll be too busy yourself sometimes, but that's okay
she'll see you
other girls will see you
as a guy that's progressive in his own life, and in his relationships

[Life360_Dave]

It would also appear that after spending some time with you, its not turning out what she expected. This is all part of the dating process and im sure you have or will do this to some girl as well. Just find someone new.

[specialmom]

I agree with londres.  I'm thinking she doesn't want a super serious boyfriend and is trying to enjoy her school experience.  I'm a big believer in doing what she is doing as this is the time in one's life in which that SHOULD be the focus.  I would just back off a bit and see if she still wants to see you but it sounds like you are much more into the relationship than she is at this point.  No matter how it started.  good luck

[Londres70]

Your story wasn't easy to follow.

Sounds like you may have been smothering her and she is now trying to spend more time with other people.  You sound clingy, e.g.  looking for her when she isn't with you.

How old is she?

I think you should give this relationship a break and see what happens.