Girlfriend problems

[Chuck456]

A few months ago my girlfriend and I would perform oral sex on each other. Not anymore. Well, I still do it on her. I make her orgasm about once a week. Now she barely even gives me a handjob. No where near to the point of ejaculation. But because I am doing stuff to her I do get aroused and without the ejaculation I get blue balls every time. Ive told her that it hurts me when she doesnt finish me off. And she still doesnt care. When she does touch me down there I feel guilty because shes told me that she likes me doing stuff to her instead of her doing stuff to me. And because shes been doing this for a while Ive really lost confidence with talking to her about it. I dont know what else I can do.
PS
Were not having actual sex yet.

[marra]

hi , not sure if this could be an issue but it has been for me ! sometimes hygene is not suffisiant and smell or taste can be off putting , try using flavored licks or drops , could help !

[hatrick03]

I hate oral sex, giving and receiving. Probably TMI, but I'm ticklish there and burst into laughter when he attempted it. I didn't mind giving it on occasion, but my ex got to the point where all he wanted was oral sex. He was middle-aged and often had difficulty getting it up, so he didn't want to bother with real sex anymore. It was easier for me to do all the work, but oral sex isn't satisfying to me at all. We were just on different pages anyway in our relationship, but the sex issue was a dealbreaker. Many women just don't like oral sex. It sounds like you are looking out for your girlfriend's needs, though. My ex was like your gf in that he didn't think about my sexual needs much at all. He bought the little blue pills, but always "forgot" to take them before I came over. I didn't like oral sex, but would do it just to make him happy, and I wouldn't just leaving him hanging (no pun intended) mid-way through. I would let your gf know how badly it makes you feel when she does this. If she doesn't take it seriously, I'd consider finding someone who is more considerate.

[PlateletGal]

Talk to her... she may not understand what she is doing or she doesn't like giving oral sex. Either way, you need to find out.

Good luck !

[sparkeler]

Why would you please her if she doesn't return the favor?  Any man she is with in the future will cheat on her.  Kick this hussy to the curb.

[RockRose]

Chuck,  find another girlfriend who isn't selfish.

Life is short.  Don't put up with this.  Maybe one day she'll have to change because no man would put up with this ****.

Best wishes.

[Trialanderror]

Usually it is the other way around. Either way, not a fair situation. Were you able to find out whether she is simply selfish or did she dislike any part of giving pleasure to you? Maybe there is something she is trying to avoid. If it is pure selfishness, I would treat her the same way until she offers a compromise at least. If it is none of the above, there is also the possiblity that she thinks that leaving her guy with "blue balls" will only make him desire her more. Make sure she understands it is serious business.