Girlfriend wants a break and says she loves me and there isnt another guy.

[chipper9]

So the past few days my girlfriend has been acting weird. A few days ago she said she wanted a break but she had no reason for it. She later said that the break idea was a bad idea, which was an hour later. We talked on the phone for about an hour. It was a real nice conversation, I was making her laugh, she was making me laugh. The next day she woke me up and we went out to eat lunch. We then went to the pool.She was laughing the entire day and it looked like she was loving live. On the way home I saw tears in her eyes. i asked her if anything was wrong but she said no. She later texted me and said that she needed a break. She said that the break would help her clear her head. She said that she is extremely in love with me and that there is no other guy, but she seems depressed. (her mom noticed it also, this is the reason she finalized the break because she was sad). She has no explanation for this sadness and says im a great boyfriend. She says she still loves me and just wants to concentrate on volleyball for now, and we text everyday still.She said she needs a break to figure everything out, but I just dont understand what everything is? I asked her if she wasnt happy with me and if she wanted to end it completly and she said "god no." I guess my question is what should I do, I have no idea what is going on in our relationship as of this moment.

[Sarajmt]

That sounds great Chipper.  Good luck to the both of you.

[chipper9]

So my girlfriend texted me today and said she wanted to see me and she said shes gonna write me a letter? and that she was being stupid. Thanks for all the support, I wasnt expecting it this early

[teko]

I think your girlfriend loves you to death but is not emotionally ready for a steady one on one relationship and doesnt know how to not hurt your feelings. My guess is that she is feeling like this relationship is too much too soon and wants to do all the things her friends do without being committed to anyone at this time.This is very normal for your age and should not be taken personally. I bet she feels like she will lose your friendship if she is honest. I think needing a break is a easy out, other than friendship.  She wants to do what she wants to do but doesnt want to hurt you in the process.You are way too young to be exclusive anyways and remember this is just my opinion. But being a mom of 3 girls, yeppers sounds familiar to me.

[Sarajmt]

Hi Chipper:  You're awfully young to be going through this.  Your girlfriend is probably stressed out over something and is probably depressed.  She may need counseling and possibly medication for depression but that's for a doctor to decide.

If you were my son, and I have 2 sons aged 17 and 20, I'd tell you to take a step back.  Give her some space and don't call or text her everyday but maybe check in on her occasionally.  If another young lady catches your eye, ask her out.  And if you develop a relationship with another young lady, good.  But chances are, your girlfriend will come around in time.

Normally when we girls, and again I have a 14 year old daughter, say something to the extent of there's no one else, there is someone else.  But this doesn't sound like the situation with you.  She does sound depressed.  And is probably being straight with you.

Good luck.  Let us know what happens.

[raquelplus2]

im no expert but sounds like shes jus goin thru a depression n lik she said needs a break. i dnt hnk its anythng at all with you. n def not anothr guy..i thnk wat u shld do is jus take a step back b thr 4 her whn she needs you to talk to or jus be a frend...give her time...she will come round its def obvious she still loves u sh jus wants to gt thru this