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He has seperated from me after 25 years of marriage

He brought home herpes, said othe girlfriend told him she had it, now I have it, and he says she was tested 3 months ago and is now negative, after having it for 12 years, he believes her.
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Oh boy.  I'm so sorry about this.  Obviously you know that herpes doesn't go away.  Once ya got it, you got it forever.  It lays dorment and then will resurface.  Some people claim to get a tingling sensation as it is resurfacing but some don't and if it is just coming, it can be unknown that one is about to have an outbreak.  Regardless, if you are cheating on your spouse and with someone that tells you they have herpes-------------- you use protection EVERY time regardless.  Well, you should use protection regardless if you are cheating.  Well, someone should not be cheating.  

Anyway, his saying he was tested three months ago and is now negative is wrong.  Obviously, he is either not so bright or confused or lying to you.  

I'm so sorry this has happened to you.  I want you to know that my best friend contracted herpes in her early 20's and has managed it without it interfering in her life too much.  So, you will go on to have a regular sex life.  They make some great medications for this nowadays.  

I'm sure you are heartbroken.  You were married a long time!  Was the affair a surprise?  Let us know how we can help you.  Peace.
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an absolute surprise on the affair, but worse, that he would lie to me and tell me he could guarantee I didn't need tested.  Well after watching him over a period of a week or so, I changed my mind about believing him and asked to be tested.  Now I have to live with this reminder of his affair the rest of my life, and all he can say is "I'm sorry, but I don't desire you anymore"  What a B.....
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he refuses to go get tested, since he doesn't have an outbreak, and she told him she now doesn't have it, how nieve can one person be.  I am devastated by this, and by the fact he is standing by her, when she should of informed him with an outbreak, they had no business doing anything.  
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