Help me please!!!

[Tiara_lenise93]

My boyfriend's ex girlfriend is claiming that she's pregnant because my 1 year old is in the picture. She just found out she was pregnant in March but now she's going around telling people that she's 5 months and she is due in September then change it around saying that she's due in October. Nobody hasn't seen any ultrasound pictures or any other proof that she suppose to be pregnant. But everybody in her family and some of her friends are going along with but and his family doesn't believe that's she's pregnant. And she's going out to party and she's trying to get a job. One of her family members said that she never went to the doctor some people are saying that she is lying just to keep my boyfriend in the picture and he believes that she suppose to be pregnant but he never saw any pictures or nothing and she doesn't call or text him to let him know how the "baby" is which suppose to be a girl. And she's all on Facebook saying that she can't wait until the baby gets here but at first she said it's back to square one me,myself, and I and she didn't mention anything about the baby. So right now she's worrying about partying and not about the so called baby.

[Londres70]

There was another girl who pretended to be pregnant?  Sounds like your bf needs to be more careful.  

[Nighthawk61]

Truly this is a non issue until there is proof otherwise. Seems strange that more than one girl is possibly faking pregnancy. Maybe it is in how he breaks up with his gf's? (for no reason other than another girl maybe?) Hmmm
Might this be a red flag?

Forget about the drama and don't get involved. Your time should be about the two of you, otherwise their ruse(s) is/are working.

[Tiara_lenise93]

Thank you

[specialmom]

Oh. Ha.  Sorry.  Well,  I would ignore them and her until there is an actual baby.  Good luck Jon.

[Tiara_lenise93]

I also found out that she's not the first girl claiming to pregnant another girl said she was but she wasn't.

[Tiara_lenise93]

I was talking about the his ex family I'm not feeding into the drama. And I wasn't going back and forth with them.

[Londres70]

SM, I think she was talking about this ex's family.

[specialmom]

Sweetie, this concerns me.  You are fighting with his family?  You are feeding directly into the drama.  Encourage him to reconcile with his family for sure.  Right away.  he can say that he doesn't think she's pregnant or that it would be his based on what he knows of when they last had sex. If a baby shows up, he will take a DNA test willingly and if it were his, he'd be a father to that baby.  But otherwise, that they need to wait and see and support HIM>  don't allow this to be you and him against the world.  Don't let such drama overtake your life. good luck

[Tiara_lenise93]

We already had problems with her and the family. When me and him got together that's when she start claiming she was pregnant her family was harassing him saying that he need to step up to the plate. So he blocked them and the family was sending me friend requests on Facebook so I see this as jealousy.

[Londres70]

Agree with SM.  Rise above this and ignore.  

I would be surprised if she is pregnant and even if she was that doesn't make it his automatically.  

She could be doing this to make you jealous and cause problems for you and your bf.

[Tiara_lenise93]

He also said if she doesn't let him anything between June and September then he knows the truth.

[Tiara_lenise93]

Thank you

[Tiara_lenise93]

I'm 21 he's 22 and she's 19

[specialmom]

Well, if she isn't really bothering HIM about it, then I wouldn't worry. If a baby every 'shows' up and she claims it is his, then he can request a DNA test.  But one can only fake a pregnancy for so long.  I would just rise above this and not mix yourself into drama.  good luck

[Londres70]

How old are you all.........you, the bf and the ex?

[Tiara_lenise93]

Thanks! They are friends again on Facebook which I don't understand why. She said she's going to a party and he commented and said long as my baby ok. I never seen any messages between them in his inbox me she says she's due on September 27 which is my daughter's birthday and she was telling him she's due on her birthday which is October 28. I just don't know what to. I mean September will be here before you know it and still no pictures or paperwork

[lightmare]

This sounds like a sad, messed up individual who neds to let go. I would advise your bf to set the standard and do the same. If she really is pregnant she will begin to show soon. If/when she does, address the situation at that time. It should still give you a few months to work something out.

In the meantime I would recommend your bf deletes but does not block her from facebook or perhaps just unfollow her posts so she is kept at arms length at least digitally.
It might also be a good idea for him to not text or call her but rely on e-mails instead so she cannot manipulate him over the phone and all agreements and communications are saved in the cloud for future reference which could help out in a legal sense as well in a relational sense.