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[Rocky7111]

I know this isn't health related But I need help.
I don't know what to do. me and my boyfriend keep fighting. other people are getting in the way he thinks we spend too much time together cause other people say we do. my friend jess says everythings going to get worse. we got in a fight cause he doesn't like cats and he almost threw a kitten. i don't know what to do. should i stay with him. he doesn't hit me. and i love him alot and he is sweet and nice. but he says i make him sad all time should i still be with him?

[Lilmama933]

i think you guys should take a break if its getting really out of hand...
i think you guys do love eachother but whats best
is for you guys to separate

[specialmom]

Oh goodness.  Well, you most likely have a very skewed idea of what a normal relationship is like with all that goes on in your home.  That is sad and I want you to hear me loud and clear-------  it is not normal to have a house in which everyone is fighting and it feels like a battleground.  You need to really believe that so that you can make changes in your life to have a happier road ahead of you.  What happens with this boyfriend, I don't know.  I'm glad it is going better now but you need to look out for yourself and make sure that 'fighting' isn't a way of life.

Secondly, I'm not sure what you are saying about school.  In the US, in which you live, you are actually required to go to school. Sure, you can decide you will not go but no school will kick you out for moving around a lot.  They may not pass you to the next grade but it is a law that all kids in this country are provided an education through the 12th grade.  If you find going to school difficult, I highly suggest that your parents contact the local school district in which you live and get you enrolled in online school.  I am sure that this is available in your area-----  if you live in New Jersey.  School really is a priorioty and even if you don't take the traditional tract, you need to educate yourself in some way.  

If you have this life due to your parents, so be it-----  but you will be 18 soon enough.  Make graduating highschool at the very least a priority and think about some kind of trade school.

I wish you lots of luck hon.  Sounds like it has been hard.  Peace

[Rocky7111]

and my last boyfriend took all my friends away from me. my mom and dad fight all the time. my mom and grandma fight all the time. my brother and his girlfriend fight all the time. my house is one big battle field and so is his house. but he sleeps here every night cause everyone took over his room.
but he wakes up leaves he helps out around his house all the time. and I'm not in school. I move too much. so the school kicked me out. and I live in the middle of no where pretty much.

[Rocky7111]

I'm his first girlfriend. he's not use talking about his feelings and everything. but me and him talked. everything is working out fine now. we have time apart so we can miss each other. and we fought all the time because my family stresses me out and his family stresses him out and all that stress makes us fight.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Oh, this is hard but when we are in our teens, we should never stay with someone we fight with all the time.  A volatile relationship at such a young age isn't a good sign.  And I don't want this to start to feel normal to you.  It's not.  A good relationship has disagreements, but people communicate well and work it out without necessarily 'fighting'.  I'm glad that he doesn't hit you but you say that like it is a bonus.  He better NOT hit you.  Do you have a lot of fighting in your home?  Are both mom and dad around?  

I would try to do as londres says and focus on the things that will advance your life to a good place---------  school work being your number one priority.  You need to get prepared now for what comes next as it will be here sooner rather than later.  Prepare for college or trade school of some sort so that you can eventually earn a living.  It is time to see that as something important to think about.  Friends that are solid.  Hobbies that are good for you.  These are important things in developing who you are.  An aggressive boyfriend that you fight with really isn't good for you.  good luck

[Londres70]

You all should probably take a break from each other and see what happens.

He has told you you make him sad?  Hmmmm.....that doesn't sound like he wants to be in a relationship with you.  Usually a person ideally doesn't stay in a relationship with someone who makes him/her sad. This is not a healthy relationship in my opinion; sounds very volatile at times, i.e. he almost threw a kitten while you all were arguing. Plus you all are so young.  

You are only 16?  I would recommend you put more focus on friends, school and other activities besides this boy.  Sounds like you are putting too much focus on him and spending too much time with him.  

[RainLover71]

relationship therapy.Get the opinion of a third party.It could make all the difference.All the best.

[Rocky7111]

Thank you. and I'll talk to him

[gem421]

If you spend to much time together, it's best if you have some time apart which will give you both sometime to miss eachother. I think you should sit and talk to him before making any harsh decisions but as for him nearly throwing a kitten that is out of order!