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[loveme20]

So you guys I know I might sound carzy but when you love soemeone you will do anything.

I will make it short lol
  LAST year I met this guy my intention wasnt to love him we had sex on the very first time sex was amazing lol later in the month its start changing I went on his facebook it hurted to see two kids of his and he was dating his baby mama it took my heart away yah I no:(  I ask him you have to kids he said yes I do I don't want people knowing my business. I was a senior so I was forcing on school I completely stop talking to him for two months. I text him we start talkimg again he came to stay closer to me lol I fall in love with him . He didnt work yah I am dumb I would buy him weed I was loyal to him I didnt mess around with noone I really wanted to have my first child with him.so he got kick out of school he was going back to his town I was so sad I wanted him for myself I knew he would change on me Xmas came I brought him a tab lead him money for his unpaid tickets. 2014 came our last msg was jan 3 rd :(  I got so frustrated bexauae Feb came he didnt text or nothing so I begin talking to my ex I sent him our msg dumb huh? He went off zone but I did not have sex with my ex.  I told my ex I want to take stuff slow cuz I love this guy. I start telling people how I feel about him they like you should move on I couldnt . They like you shouldnt mess with belle glade people ao I got tested  my results came back Negative:). April came by I wanted to get him back lol so I did I act like he had hiv now his phone going on voice mail I do regret its june ididnt hear from him at all I grew worry about hi, . I do love him but the fact its beeen six month no contact of him people telling me leave him alone I deserve better but they dont know the truth my heart is cripple by the vein lol?
Now im talking to this guy that I know for two wants to start  a familt with me.



what should I do wait for my lover?

move on?

[jleeflcntrygrl]

I agree with all the above! U guys pretty much nailed it! Lol

[Chima7]

This while situation depresses me because here's you clearly not ready for motherhood by any stretch of the imagination desperately trying to get pregnant by a guy who already had multiple kids with different girls. For what? What exactly is your plan? You think the guy is going to magically become an attentive, doting, caring father and boyfriend/husband to you? That's about as far from reality as you can get. This guy is a deadbeat loser who will keep getting multiple women pregnant, not caring about being a present and engaged father in his kids lives and you want this guy to be a father to a child of yours? I think you need to get your head out of the sand and realize what's going on here and what a crappy life you and your kid will have if this happens. Seriously, think about it a little before you go and do something dumb like have a baby with that guy. Yikes.

[Nighthawk61]

No child asks to be born into this sort of immaturity. To be sure you will be a disappointment to them, if you even try to do this now~ Think of what type of mother you want to be. and please take the advice given here, finish high school, and GO TO COLLEGE. Find yourself a career that your kids can be proud of ,that you can be proud of , and that your future husband, can be proud of. STOP yourself from thinking that you need INSTANT GRATIFICATION. Planning parenthood is something that takes time and commitment. anything else is asking for disaster. Every child deserves a father who wants them. Please think about this. IF you've been brought up in a way that did not exemplify these qualities, that doesn't mean that you can't find them. Find a therapist and talk about how you grew up, and that you want the best for your future family. They will help you get from A to B. I promise you it would be well worth your time, to talk to mentors that support you doing what you need to, so that your family will have the best life. YOU CAN DO IT. Just be open and honest about your story, and you'll find your mentors.

[Jinx_777]

PLEASE do not have a baby with anyone at this stage in your life.  You have way too much to learn and a child does not deserve to be dragged along while you make mistakes   He already had 2 kids and cheats on his 'baby mama' and you want to have his child???  holy lola.  
please just go to school and be a kid/young adult.  go to college and experience being an adult WITHOUT being strapped to a child.  Not only is it expensive, you will change your body and essentially be grounded for 18 yrs..  THINK
telling someone they are HIV + when they are not is unforgivable.  move on and never do that again.  please, just go to school. there is plenty of time to have children later

[nursegirl6572]

AMEN to the above replies.  Do NOT have a baby with this man.  He's a player, plain and simple.  NOTHING concrete is going to come out of a "relationship" that started with sex on the first date (sex where he was cheating no less).  Wake up sweetie, he's using you, and he already has two kids with someone he didn't commit to, you will be NO different, and your child will likely not have a doting father, like he/she should.

You really aren't thinking straight.  Having a baby with this man is crazy.  Move one, and focus on YOU.  There's NOTHING about this that is "love"...no way, no how.  It's lust and manipulation.

[TTinKKerBBell]

which of these guys is it that You are planning on having a family with right now??  as I type??

I only see disaster ahead !!  This isn't only Your future You're messing with but You are talking about bringing a baby into this!! !! ?? ??

PLEASE re-think what You're doing here !!

[specialmom]

I don't do anything for love but then again, I'm well past the time in which I see love in such a whimsical way.

I agree with londres.  

Yes, leave someone who doesn't contact you when you've reached out to them for six months alone.  

My best advice is to take life a bit more seriously.  Focus on studying school, work.  Be a classy girl.  Don't give yourself away so freely and leave all this childish, silliness behind.  

You might like our teen forums here which you can find by going to the top of this page and hitting forums.  It will pull up a page and then there are forums in alphabetical order with teen being a good place to focus.  good luck

[Londres70]

"So you guys I know I might sound carzy but when you love soemeone you will do anything."...........you forgot to mention reasonable; you would do anything for someone you love that is REASONABLE.  I personally wouldn't be breaking the law for anyone, e.g. buying weed to support someone's habit, nor would I be doing half the nonsense you have done in order to keep a guy around.


Then you told him a lie about being HIV+ just to get him back?   Where is your self respect?  That is something you shouldn't be lying about.  Being HIV+ is very serious indeed and that isn't meant to be taken lightly and no one should  "pretend" and tell someone "Oh, by the way you are HIV +.........just kidding."  

Hon..........this post says A LOT about you.  You are young, immature and obviously doing things without thinking.  I would leave BOTH guys alone and work on YOU as there is a lot of work to be done.  You state you are 20, but I am getting a teenage vibe from the manner you are writing.  You need to figure out why you are so desperate and why are you are doing things so extreme to get a guy who is pretty much taken with two children.  Do you think that little of yourself?

Leave the guys alone, focus on your future,; focus on school and/or work.  Above all......mature.