How do you spend Mother's Day... After becoming a mother?

[BearHitch]

I have a quick question and decided to post it here too... once you became a mother, did it change how you normally spent Mother's Day?  I am curious to know what others do because - once again - I am at odds with my mother and I am anticipating it over this holiday as well.  Normally I would go out to eat with my mom at a place of her choosing with my younger siblings.  Now however I am a mother and would like to choose where I want to eat and do what I want on this day.  The idea of eating out twice in 1 day at 2 expensive places seems to be out of the question... going down to her house (almost an hour drive) to visit is not something you can really do for just 1 hour and the only reason she wants me to do this is so she can see my son.  Mind you - us not being present for the holidays was never an issue until he was born.  It may seem petty and a total no-brainer, but I am still learning boundaries and how to stand up to her.  The #1 thing she does is makes me feel guilty and that everyone spends mother's day with their mom even if they are now a mom... this can't possibly be true.  

My idea is to send her a card and gift certificate (flowers are outrageously expensive!) - does anyone else focus Mother's day on their new status as a mom?  

A Confused Bearhitch

[BearHitch]

Well it is good to read "shouldn't" be - it makes me feel a lot better!  I guess I always thought at some point you had to "pass the torch" if you will, because your kids grow up.   I would want my daughter-in-laws to have very special mother's day...  Anyway, I guess maybe it is harder because I am the oldest and the only one married and with kids  :S  I will look into local flowers and see if that is cheaper.  Thanks for the comments!  

[teko]

Call a florist that is in your moms town. It is a lot cheaper and usually better flowers to boot.

[teko]

My mother has passed away now, but I would always send a card and call her to wish her Happy Moms Day and tell her I love her. My own children would do the same for me. Some would send flowers or stop by for a visit, while others would call me.  My husband usually takes me out to eat or something so it has never been an issue.  Dont overthink it.  Just wish your mom a happy moms day, let her know you are thinking of her and go about your day. As long as she gets that call she will not be offended at all. Or should I say, she shouldnt be.

[BearHitch]

Well the problem with flowers is that the flowers themselves are only $20 but given where my mom lives for delivery, the shipping charge to get there on Mother's Day is another $30+   :S  Thanks for the input!

[heatherlynn22]

well normally for mothers day (this is my first offical mom's day since i was only pregnant last year) i'd get her a card and make her breakfast then we'd all (her, my brother and i) would go out to dinner. THIS year...hubby and i are sending his mom, my mom, nana and grams flowers and cards (if you go look around online you can find some really good deals for mothers day...we were able to get 4 bouqets for $20/dozen) while i get to relax at home with my boys. of course hubby is making me breakfast and he's either going to cook me my favorite dinner or we're going out. not sure yet.