My longtime doctor left so they put me with another one in the same practice. I figured I'd give her a try and see what she's like. Omg, she was quite literally the most passive aggressive and condescending doctor I've seen in a very long time! She made me feel terrible about myself and she really, really got under my skin. I didn't stop talking about how bad she was to my family and friends for a long time! I found another doc in the practice that I liked and have been seeing him ever since.
Now whenever my new doc isn't available and they try to put me with that awful doc, I tell them flat out that I'll never go to her again because she was the worst. And funny enough, she's the only one who seems to always have available appointments all the time while all the other docs and even the physician assistants have few available appointments because no one wants to go to that terrible doctor.
So anyway my point being, if you're not comfortable with any doctor at any time, it's your choice to find another one. It doesn't matter how long you've been going to a doctor, you can change to a different one at any time. Don't ever feel obligated to stay with a doc who you don't feel good about. It's your health care. It's your choice.
You need to leave if she is disrespecting you like that, If at all possible. I've had doctors do some of the same things to me and I switched to another one. I sure hope you find a good doctor, dealing with that is not fun at all. ... She sounds like a real winner. :(
I think you've gotten some great advice here, and i too think you should definitely start to look for a new physician. What Specialmom said about her treating you like a friend sounds about right, a not so nice friend that you wouldn't bother with but this type of behaviour is unprofessional at best. Friends sometimes feel the right to talk to you on a level of intimacy that certainly professional caregivers that you are paying for should not be entitled to and I'm really sorry you're feeling this kind of depression as a result. I get you. Honestly, i have a bit of a problem with my own physician, and i have to see her for prescriptions every month. I haven't changed doctors myself, because my last two doctors were worse. I've never really found a physician i would say that i really liked (which is sad). Good luck to you, i hope you let us know how this issue is working itself out. Thanks for posting. Good topic.
Yes, you are the consumer of health care. That means you have the power and choices. In some countries this is not the case because good doctors are harder to come by, but if you can let her know that you are not tolerating unprofessional behavior (which is what she is showing)-- then it will help her with future patients. She seems to be on a level with you in which she is treating you like a friend. Which is nice but she's shown you that you probably wouldn't want to be her friend. LOL It's unfortunate. But not something you should have to deal with. Lots of people feel anxious as it is when going to the doctor about their own health . . . NOT that their doctor is acting rude or passing judgements and being inappropriate. Let us know how it goes!
Your physician is supposed to make you feel COMFORTABLE, and not depressed after seeing them! If you are the kinds that is ok with confronting people head-on and airing your grievances, then I think you should definitely tell her you need to talk to her and air your feelings out. She sounds pretty unprofessional with some of the things you mention she is doing or the way she treats you.
If you think talking to her isn't an option, then finding another physician may be a better option, than dealing with your health issues AND a surly/disrespectful doctor who probably compounds your issues.
You have every right to be taken seriously and to be treated with respect by your doctor.
Hope you do what makes you feel happy and satisfied.
Wish you the best!