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How to tell if she is lying about being pregnant

Hi,
I recently had a one night stand with an older lady, she is between 46-50 years old. We were both pretty drunk but I used a condom and after the sex remember it was full of my semen and then I flushed it down the toilet. Now this woman came off as a bit of a fantasist, telling me she got messages direct from celebrities on Twitter, claiming she dreamed she would meet somebody in the same job as me (Not that it's very exciting). Fair enough, no problem, it was nice to meet her and I said my goodbyes without giving her my number, although I did tell her where I worked.
Two weeks later she phones me at work randomly for a chat, asking if I'll go back to the club we met. I falsely tell her I have a girlfriend to try and put her off the scent. Then I get a text two weeks later saying she is having morning sickness and thinks she may be pregnant. She says something must have gone wrong and can't take a Home Pregnancy Test as she has a rare blood condition. Is this likely? She says her period is late then mentions that she now has only one tube and doesn't know how this 'happened'. She claims she will go to the doctor in a couple of weeks for a blood test. Then she tells me her boyfriend is coming back from abroad and she is beinf forced to take him back as he has had two heart attacks without her. Even though he is in his 30s.
Is she trying to rope me in or is there a chance she could be telling the truth?
Thanks for your help.
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973741 tn?1342342773
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I got that she was too old to be pregnant (I'm 44 though and have not started any menopause symptoms to date . . .) but the first phone call, had he known that you can pee on a stick to find out, he could have ended the whole sham and said BS lady.  The whole thing would have been a lot quicker.  The poor woman sounds like she is sad and would like a baby and was enjoying the fantasy of possibly conceiving one.  Just my thoughts . . .
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968908 tn?1274871115
see menopause........
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973741 tn?1342342773
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Just a quick note-----  those couple weeks of worry could have been resolved with a home pregnancy test----  you PEE on a stick and get a yes or no.  I never even had a blood test to confirm pregnancy with either of my kids.  Remember that next time-----  but my oh my-----  hopefully there will be no next time!
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You can come back down from the hills now....glad it all worked out for you and live and learn from this uncomfortable situation.  Good luck, Judy
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Unbelievably I just got a message from her saying not to worry about it anymore, that it was other problems. What a huge relief to actually have it confirmed. Thanks again to everybody for taking the time to give their advice.
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Hi everybody, thanks for all your advice. Since last week I have not heard a word. She said she was getting a blood test on Tuesday just past and I told her that myself and my girlfriend would need to see her doctor with her should there by any positive results. She told me to not to worry about it and she would take care of things and then didn't reply when I told her we would need to see the doctor with her. I have not heard a word from her this week and I will not be trying to contact her. Hopefully I will not hear from her again either.
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404138 tn?1308941656
she sounds crazy.
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1113994 tn?1258663183
Personaly I would tell her u want true-real proof, which would be for her to take a home pregnancy test, with you present. That is one of the only ways to know for sure. If she refuse's, then I'd let her know exactly how you feel, and I would call her out as a liar,
and tell her to lose ur number.

Any rational thinking woman who feels that she may be pregnant, would not refuse to do a pregnancy test with the may-be-future father present, especially since it would concern both ur futures as well as any baby who might come into the world. It sounds to me as if she is trying to string you along, and possibly extort money from you in future, claiming its for a non-existant baby.

Also in future I would not do any more 1 nighter's with strangers.
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Laying all remarks aside it takes 2 to tango, and if she is playing a game, it is not nice, if she is not she is to be pitied, because she may be a sick lonley woman, but stay away, and see what happens, and watch it in the future, by now she really should know the answer, but strange things do happen  luck  jo
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Sorry, i came on being rude, but things just do not add up, but then what di i know? luck  jo  RockRose may have the right solution, also if she told you she would handle it, just let her alone, and wait and see, its hard, but maybe this is all in her mind.  jo
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13167 tn?1327194124
I smell a boiling rabbit.  : (

I'd just act bland if she calls back - you don't want to make her sabotage you further - just say oh okay.  Um hum,  okay.
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968908 tn?1274871115
Ok, you poor thing, it sounds as if this woman needs some help..... the thing about her having a blood disorder and not being able to do a home pregnancy test...well errrr thats a first!! It sounds very much to me like she is trying her hardest to keep you around and will do anything to do so..... If she has missed a period at her age its more likely to be her menopause, than pregnancy being 50 or so.... think u need to keep well away.  
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To be honest, I think I've had it with her nonsense. She keeps stringing me along. I think I'm going to take Judy246's advice and run for the hills with the words, "contact me in 7 months and we can do a paternity test." I've made it clear I am in a relationship and have started pressing that I want to attend a meeting with her doctor and her should there be a "positive" response. She has been totally silent, hence the leave it all to her comments. I doubt she's going to admit to it so perhaps it's best to cut my losses.
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Ut oh. Not good.

Pregnancy would be a concern, but actually that is the least of your worries with this one -IMO

Ps. I highly doubt she is pregnant. She most likely has powdered eggs at that age.
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She came back and said she's been to the doctors and is having a blood test done on Tuesday, by the nurse, and it has to go to the hospital. And she's started saying just leave it to her from now on, and she won't implicate me financially or otherwise. I believe this is all bs and there is no real problem but I would still like a definite answer.
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Yeap...that' the menopause age, where the period actually stop and eggs are not very good any more.  Maybe she is confusing menopause with pregnancy....just a thought also...Judy
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1113994 tn?1258663183
If this woman is 46-50 yrs old, she may be starting menopause, und it might just be why she has missed her periods, plus the craziness u describe from her can also be a factor towards this. Just a thought...
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Okay, so I asked her if we could come along to see the doctor with her and she said thanks for the offer but she will manage. I've tried the not being rude route, playing along and trying to talk her round and she seems a bit more pleasant so we will see. Although she added she's missed her second period. Its been 39 days since we had sex. Should hear by the weekend. Fingers crossed.
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303824 tn?1294871401
The only way to know if she is pregnant or not is to be there at a Dr.appt. Either this woman is psycho or she's really pregnant. I find it odd that a woman that age would lie about something like that. Usually it's the younger girls that pull those types of stunts, so you never know! If she is pregnant and you are the father, it is your responsibility to make sure that child is taken care of. Just because you didn't want it to happen doesn't mean you get to run from it. You play, you pay!

With that said...there is an unlikely chance that she isn't due to her age and having only one tube, but it can't be totally ruled out either. I had my tubes tied and got pregnant and the chances of that are very slim, but it happened. My advice would be to tell her you will be attending the Dr.appt. and to get the name of the doctor and address. If she refuses, then most likely it's a crock. If she does turn out to be pregnant, do a DNA test and go from there. I hope it works out for you!
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I don't think there is a need to be rude to her, who knows, maybe she has her own little world, and maybe, just maybe, she is late because she might be going into menopause!! (some woman go through menopause at really early age even early 40s) if so, there is no need for you to hurt her, my understanding is that it can be tough times! She might be all happy thinking she will have a baby and then find out is just that she is never ever going to have one again...any way, be careful, it sounds to me you are in some deep trouble
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My first response was run for the hills fast, but when you fall into temptations and risky behavior, this can be a possible long term consequense for a quick lustful moment. Was it worth it....hell no! Now you have a possible fatal attraction (lol) with issues, but it did take 2 to tango. Live and learn and now with that said.....RUN FOR THE HILLS :)
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Thanks for taking the time to write guys. It always helps to get another perspective as sometimes your own view can be clouded by what you really want to be true. And in this case its pretty obvious I would love to run away fast!
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Tell her she was of age and to do as she pleases but as far as you are concerned to go fly a kite  you might also tell her that you had the mumps when you were 12 and you cant have children, and tell her that she really is to old to have a child, but maybe the boyfriend will put up with it, she is nuts  just kidding, but it does sound like a horror movie and if she is Pg i say it is her fault   luck  jo
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She sound like a "fatal attraction" or  obsession nut case. She's trying to rope you, so use caution and you don't know who she has been sleeping around with, because you really don't know her. Let this be a lesson to you that quicky sex can lead to quicky baby accusation and possibly an STD. If she is pregnant, DNA test and then take it from there, but she sounds like she is trying to rope you and make it real clear that it happened and you are not looking for any type of exclusivity or committed relationship with her.
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