Husbands refuses more children.

[kirsty1989]

I have just had my 2nd child 10 weeks ago and although I am for sure not ready for anymore, I just brought it up in s conversation with hobby while we were driving somewhere (think i made a joke comment about having to have a bigger car when we have more) and although he's always known I'd like a big family he just point blank shot me down and said no more kids! I was shocked, we've been together for 7 yeas and our plan was always to have a big family. Why has ge suddenly decided against it or even let me in on ge fact he's done? I tried talking to him but he fidnt want to just kept saying we've had enough 2's enough. Do i just go with it and be done even though i really don't want to be? I love being a Mummy, im a SAHM I love it. Obviously I love him and want what he's wants (most of ge time)

[teko]

I think I heard it costs 250.000 dollars to raise a child these days. You have two so yer looking at 500.000. Wow! Can you imagine the deer in the headlights look when one thinks that They are responsible for that happening? Overwhelming is an understatement! LOL, and the future is sketchy at best with jobs availability and all. Yeah for now, I would let him off lightly so he doesnt stroke out on ya! lol

[specialmom]

I agree with Rockrose.  The idea of having a big family might have sounded great until he understood what being a parent meant, how much it would cost, etc.  

I had thought I wanted a large family as well but have my two kids, both blessings.  There is part of me that wishes I might have had more kids, that same part that wishes I'd won the lottery.  But I do my best to be happy in the life I have right here and now.  

So, time will tell if he will change his mind or not but I wouldn't worry about that now.  I'd focus on what you've got and enjoying that (as Rockrose said!).  I'd not worry about this now and in a few years (3 or 4 maybe?), ask him what he thinks about more then.  Then you can have an honest discussion about how you might like more and wished he did.  See what he says and then work it out.  But this is a long time down the road, I'd say.  Enjoy now without getting wrapped up in next baby.  


Best wishes and enjoy these next few years, they go quickly!  Peace

[RockRose]

I think often people don't know how stressful and time-consuming children are until they have them.

At this point,  with a two year old and a newborn, your husband is most likely completely overwhelmed.   Where he might have passively entertained your desire to have a large family before,  the reality has hit and he realizes he's not willing to do that.

I think at this point,  you thank God for your beautiful healthy babies and you enjoy them.  ;D