I feel alone an pregnant! But have a husband

[babycree]

I never thought this can change a marriage are bring problems to a relationship!  I feel by myself alone an scared. All this that I'm goin through is new to me. I pray that things get better an over come good positive things in life, has anyone felt are been in this situation that I'm in, I'm 16weeks pregnant first time mother an experience relationship problem with my husband. I feel not myself not happy are satisfied. I have to asked him over an over to show me some attention it feel like I'm by myself! I'm not a selfish person but I meet him half way why can't he!  I thank god for my relationship an husband an this newborn gift that I have " an yes I'm blessed god chosen Me,  I'm always trying to be strong for the baby an I an try not to stress myself are the baby out. I have alot to learn an accomplished for me an baby! Please leave your comments an I appreciate the chat that anybody reply to.

[babycree]

Thank you so much for the comments I really needed that positive feed back

[AnnieBrooke]

Often, a new father-to-be can feel very frightened for the future, especially frightened for his ability to provide financially (the traditional man's role) and it can make him feel less of a man, and also the husband can be frightened for the wife's safety in the pregnancy.  (My husband was afraid I would die.)

You say "I meet him half way why can't he!"  In a marriage, partners have no business drawing a halfway line and stopping there.  The way support flows in a marriage is that one is down, the other gives 100% or more.  Then the other might be down, the first partner gives 100% or more.  It is not like when a partner is down, the other should walk up to a partial-support line and stop there and yell at the other partner to get over to them.

I think he probably is worried or anxious, and your asking him over and over to show you some attention is simply beyond his capacity at this moment.  This does not mean he doesn't love you, and it doesn't mean he won't be happy to be a dad.  But as one of the funny writers on pregnancy says, "He's been asked to drop his subscription to GQ [Gentleman's Quarterly magazine] and get a subscription to GRW (Guilt, Responsibility and Worry] instead, and it takes some time to get used to the change."