I hate him so much!

[Jennifer1987]

So, found out today my ex is with another girl and has told me hes in love with her... We are only finished 2 months, so I cant understand how this is possible! Im still in Love with him and haven't been with a fella since we split! Im in bits over this, i know we weren good together but I though I meant something to him! I thought he would wait like I am till he was over me, but obviously I meant nothing to him! After 2 and a half years together I though I meant a lot to him!

2 months and hes in love again! I hate this!

[mami1323]

He's not in love hon, he's in lust.  Who told you that he was in love?  Men and women are quite different when they break up.  Men need other women to distract themselves from feeling the pain.  Women take time to mourn the relationship.  Doesn't mean he doesn't think about you or miss you.  Watch how quickly that relationship will last.  When you find someone you will be in a much healthier place because you would've given yourself time to heal your heart.  He's just putting a bandaid over his.  That leads to regret.  

[Jennifer1987]

He told me himself.... I just cant do it anymore, every time I think Im getting back to normal he finds some way to knock me down! He never cared for me and its clear to see that now..I wish I never met him, He has really ruined my life! I think I better get back out there, show him I couldn't care about him anymore! Aparently someone told him I was with someone too! love to know where he got that from cause I actually have feelings and dont just get over a fella I spend so long with that easily!

[mami1323]

Well that explains a lot, he told you to hurt you.  I highly doubt that it's the truth.  I would take what he says with a grain of salt.  My suggestion is, don't speak to him anymore.  Cut off all contact with him, this way you can't get hurt and so you can move on.

[imanaddict]

I'm so sorry you're hurting so bad! I too think he just told you that to hurt you since someone told him you were with someone else. As long as you stay in contact with him, you will continue to hurt and it will only be that much harder to move on. If this guy ruined your life then it's definitely time to get back out there so you can heal. Cut off all ties with him and make it to where he can't contact you. It's going to be hard for a while and you will have find your inner strength to pull through. Everything happens for a reason and I guarantee there's a wonderful guy out there waiting in the wings just for you!

[Jennifer1987]

Well, I dont know what his reason for doing it is, he just loves upsetting me I think! I dont ever want to be with him again but it just hurts to think he loves someone else so soon! I know I have deleted his number from my phone, burned all our pics and a teddy that says I love you is now in the bin! I just cant have anything from him around me anymore! Prob over reacting doing that but I cant stand the thought of him anymore!

The thoughts of him with another girls is horrible!

[mami1323]

People can be cruel sometimes.  He probably does it because he wants to get a reaction out of you.  The only problem for him is he's getting the wrong reaction.  NOW you don't ever want to speak to him.  Just try and focus on moving forward and not about him with other women.  Pretend he doesn't exist in your world.

[Jennifer1987]

My friends just called there, they are great, keep my mind off it all! Themin I told them they were on the way to my house lol! I know, i hate him now, it official! He does not deserve me to ever again speak to him! in love after two months, hes some dope!

[Judy246]

He probable had her throught the relationship, but as mami said, it's probably lust, which will blow over soon. I sent you a private message and you are right he does not deserve you and is not worthy of your emotional distress, pain, sadness, anger, hurt, bitterness, revenge. Don't let him to continue to "poison" you and your soul. He's not worth this stress on you. Don't give him that type of control over your emotions...he's not worth it...were are all here for you.

[Jennifer1987]

I just cant believe what an impact he has had on my life, and its all negative! i cant think straight anymore, when I think about the good times Im sad but then the bad times out weigh that and Im angry then! Angry at everything, him for treating me bad, his ex for sleeping with him when she knew we were together and me for putting up with it all!

And I was thinking that ya he was prob with her all along, he was working in Cork while we were together and that where he met her! That angers me more! Jez im just full of anger and haterid! Im such an ape like, should have walked away when he cheated!!!

[mami1323]

Look everyone deserves a second chance.  That's what you gave him and at least you can say you truly tried and won't have to live with the regret of did I let him go to easily.  Now you know how you deserve to be treated in the future.  Anger is good, it gets you through, it moves you forward.  I liked anger better than sadness.  When you are sad you feel weak, when you are angry you are strong.  Good luck hon.

[Judy246]

Jen, I want you to give yourself a second chance at a new relationship, because you deserve it! No more second changes for him. Forgive yourself and learn from this mistake, because he "is" a mistake. Anger is a huge part of the healing process, because he took advantage of your good nature and it's ok to be good nature, it's ok to be free spirited, loving, caring, concerned. This is what makes you who you are and never change your good nature for someone who has no conscience at the affect he had on you. As for the other girl, it's just a matter of time that he's going to turn around and do the same thing. Let her fall on her butt. Jen, start going for 1/2 walk daily. You will be amazed how 1/2  of daily walk, will help your emotions, health and you will sleep so much better. Start planning how to take real good care and start to love ....you.

[Jennifer1987]

Ya right now I feel like I could kill him, lucky i wont be seeing him! I gave him 100 chances aand Im not exadurating that, ok maybe a lil bit but I gave him loads of chances! time I headed out and had fun I think!

Have a flight to england booked for the weekend, booked with ages just need to make sure iv the money for it lol! I think Im going to go and just forget that loser!

thanks all!