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My daughter's father and i have been broken up since before i found out about her and he said some very disrespectful things when he found out i was pregnant like get an abortion she was a mistake she wasn't meant to be here and so much more now he's been tryna make up for it what should i do ? Should i keep him away from us or let him be apart of her life?
Well, it honestly sounds to me like he was just being 100% honest about how he felt at the time about having a baby. While some of the things he said were a little harsh, I cannot see holding a grudge to this point, especially where you are even THINKING of excluding him from your and his child's life. That seems way over the top.
I understand that his words hurt you, but it sounds like he's made a big effort to apologize for that, and is SHOWING you he wants to be a Dad. That's what you should focus on.
And, no matter what the circumstance of a couple's relationship (barring abuse), no child should be kept from either parent, especially based on grown up problems and emotions.
Best of luck to you.
I understand that his words hurt you, but it sounds like he's made a big effort to apologize for that, and is SHOWING you he wants to be a Dad. That's what you should focus on.
And, no matter what the circumstance of a couple's relationship (barring abuse), no child should be kept from either parent, especially based on grown up problems and emotions.
Best of luck to you.
All I can say is that take care of yourself u have someone else that u have to think of. Let him be there for you and ur baby and show you that he is really sorry and that he is willing to be there for both of you, but also have in mind if in the first mistake stand up to him and always remember ur baby comes first and with or without a male figure u will be okay
Almost there. Just keep an eye. You will soon have your precious baby girl in your arms! Do you have a name? I know it's off subject...
That is very very grown up and good of you to be so logical and down to earth. She will see who her go to parent will be.
How far along are you? It's best to be careful. Just keep a distance as far as a relationship with him goes. But being civil is good. Let him know how the baby is doing. I completely agree with bryanna2692 though. Some dads will play that part. I love my husband but even he can be sort of a "show" dad with our daughter and we are married. He is a good dad don't get me wrong but when he has an audience he is this instant super dad. My daughter comes to me and calls for me. Your daughter will know. Hopfully he is really all in. Just keep watching.
I talked with him and let him know that him being scared i understand bringing a life in to this world is not a game but as some of you said that's no excuse for saying what you said and that it's gone take alot for me to forgive that i try to include him in the doctors visits but i stopped him from going because of the constant arguing and the things he would say while we were there and im going to let him be there and i did tell him that i would never speak ill of him in front of her or to her i will let her come up with her own opinion of him
I am being very cautious and he does talk about let's be together i refuse because what he did hurt me and disrespected me to the fullest
Sometimes men get scared at first. Although having cold feet does not give an excuse for his mean and cold comments maybe he has had a realization. I would observe his behavior a little and also talk it over with him. I would let him know you need a 100% of a father not a part time father. He is either in or he is out. Goodnluck with everything and i hope he continues to be there.
I gotta say the father of my toddler was the exact same way. Ik in my experience he never changed. He would tell everyone how good of a father he was but he never sees him but once a month for half an hour. Pretty much for show. Some times more depending on his life and his new gfs. But point is dont be bummed out if he doesnt change and u are doing all the work. But remember that the baby will remember who was there for it. My son acts like he loves his father (hes 2) but he still always prefers me over anyone else. In the end its your choice on if he sees the baby but the way I see it keeping the baby away will make u look like u were the reason his dads a moron. My son will learn that it was his dads choice not to be around just as yours will. I hope that helped and everyone has a different situation so who knows maybe hes just scared. Mine said a lot of messed up stuff too.
Let him be a part of her life. He has obviously realized he messed up. You shouldn't keep him from her, he may have not wanted her at first but if he is willing now there is no reason to hold her against him. She is part of him and you. You guys don't have to get back together, but being civil is the right thing to do if he is willing and able. It good for the baby to have mommy and daddy if possible.
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