I have female anorgasmia

[dakotarichardson65]

well i will be seeing my husband for the first time in 6 months and i want our first time together since he left to be perfect. but i have female anorgasmia. and it has always taken me @ least a hour and a half to orgasm. most of the time he tires b4 i even start to ge stimulated. so in result i normally i have him manually stimulate me but even that doesn't work. and we end up in a fight because of my "situation". and to be honest i'm starting to get pretty frustrated about it. he fells that i'm not attracted to him anymore. which is completlly not the case. i love him to death and i'm willing to do anything to get over my problem. we had gotten so frustrated b4 he left, that he started to put the whole thing in there. i dont know what to do. please help me/us.  please any advice that you have please let me know.

                                                                                    sincerlly, frustrated in denver, co.

[el_em_en_oh]

I'm not sure if this is an option that you'd consider, but could you manually stimulate yourself prior to your engagement with him, and satisfy yourself (bring yourself to orgasm)?

My wife doesn't have "female anorgasmia", but it's difficult for her to 'get off' in anything less than about an hour. When we first got together, I took it personally and felt like I wasn't "doing my job" correctly. I've come to realize that some women's buttons are just harder to push than others, and we work on it together. I don't get mine until she gets hers, and that's the way it is (unless she says that she's okay with not getting hers, in which case YIPEE!!!).

Jokes aside, I don't see this as necessarily a horrible thing. If you can get him on board, as I've done with my wife, maybe you can get him to start thinking of it as a very long 'warm up' to the main event!

[Ashelen]

Have you seen a doctor?? Most of the "female sex drive" pills are placebos, but honestly sometimes there's a chemical imbalance (such as depression, even if it's mild and barely noticeable) that can cause anorgasmia in a female. Sometimes all it takes is a little bit of hormone therapy to tweak your chemicals and fix things...barring that, consider seeing a sex therapist. Most of the time female anorgasmia is NOT caused by something mechanical (i.e. you just "can't" physically get stimulated) but it's caused by a whole host of other things, chemical imbalances, psychological considerations, that if addressed can be fixed.

It is a medical condition and does require treatment....so consider seeing a doctor and helping yourself and your husband. you both deserve it!