I just cant belive that he could do this to me..! :( long

[Roxanne28]

I knew my boyfriend/baby dad for 8 years, we been together for 5 had gorgeus baby boy just nine weeks ago. The whole time i knew he had 6years old son with someone else and the whole time he told me his mother was just mistake that they had sex few times and he brake up with her without even knowing she was pregnant than she came bk with baby bla bla bla... Anyway that what i was belive in for 5 years he always was and still is showing me a lot love even when i tried to brake up with him few times he never gave up... Was on my door step literally every day crying.
I went to his mums house couple days ago and went upstairs to feed the baby and i found letter from solicitor saying he IS MARRIED AND HAVE TWO KIDS WITH THIS WOMEN AND THE YOUNGER ONE IS 3 years OLD.... LIKE WTF they not not together for few years now but he was lieing the whole time i dnt know who is this guy any more and he was with me amd her at the same time when we start goin out.!!! It make me sick to my stomach :(
i cant stop crying how some1 could do this to me for sooo many years now i realize all his stories, everything he ever said WAS A LIE!    
What should i do?

[Chima7]

Don't be so hard on yourself. How were you supposed to know? He obviously hid it well. The bottom line is though, don't ever take him back. As far as you're concerned, everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie and you can't trust him ever again. Without trust, there is no relationship. So he's toast, and don't give him another chance. I sure wouldn't.

[Lovely_Jess]

You should try to get in contact with that lady.. Maybe she can fill in some of the blanks since he isn't as trustworthy

[specialmom]

Honestly, it would be hard for me to ever believe someone who lived a lie like that for so long.  That is a BIG thing to get over.  Give it some time and see how you feel.  Ugh, very sorry about this!!

PS:  Oh, and if he cheated on you too that you know of for sure, yes---  DIRTY DOG!!

[Lovely_Jess]

Of course you can't even if you tried.. It's going to take some serious time to get over it or to ever trust in him again. I understand how you feel.. Your situation is way different but I know that feeling.. I'd look at him and just felt so disgusted by him I'd have so much hatred towards him.

[Roxanne28]

All i'm thinking is that my poor son didnt deserve that i wanted to give him family and now it all gone :(

[Roxanne28]

Exactly shocker! When i found out he start to explaining him self but i was so shocked i didnt know whats happening and when i looked at him all i was thinking is who is this guy and if he gonna start telling me another lies so i just took me son and left ... I need answers i do bt i dnt know if i would ever get the true from some1 like that... And i have no idea how long they seperate bt he definetly cheated on her with me and i catched him talking to other girls as well so he is a DIRTY DOG

[specialmom]

Gosh, that is a shocker!!  He's a married man and has been deceiving you for 5 years . ..   that's crazy!  You are right---  who could do that and for THAT long???   There is a terrible lack of character in him that he thinks lying like that to you is okay.  He basically cheated on her with you at least early on since you've been together for 5 years and they have a 3 year old.  So, you say they are now separated?  How long has that been?  I'd want to seriously know.  You have a right to be outraged!!  You've also learned something about this man---  he sure can keep secrets, lie and he has cheated!!  

I'm not sure what I'd do at this point but definitely sit down with him and get some answers.  Very sorry this has happened!!  

[Roxanne28]

Thanx hun i wish i could get over it quick bt just cant i dnt know wt i'm gonna do... I look at him and just dnt know him any more.
All best hun x

[Lovely_Jess]

You need to take a deep breathe & think everything through.. You should confront him & ask him why he lied to you.. You deserve the truth. Or also if you need it..  tell him you need time, he should be understanding since he is the one that screwed up.. Just worry about your baby & yourself & what's best. I hope everything turns out okay

[Lovely_Jess]

I'm sorry :(( some guys are just fxcking idiots! I remember my bf & I were on & off because we couldn't keep apart and the last time we've stayed together I found out he was going with some girl but didn't even mention her to me or say he was taken so he two timed us for like 2 months I think.. I was devastated I couldn't believe that he lied from the very beginning. & he had said that she was just a hoe and nothing serious & that it was because we never made it official until months later. I've found lie after lie & I felt as if he was a complete stranger but he's been changing & has changed a lot more for our me& the baby because he wants to be in our lives. Guys just never think stuff out right.. It takes long for them to mature.