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I need a little advice
Hello, I'm 15 years old, and have type 1 Diabetes.
Recently me and my girlfriend of 2 years have become very sexual, I myself am still a virgin but she is not.
My problem is, is well I can not get an erection when she and me are close to having sex, we've tried a lot of foreplay excluding Oral, but nothing really helps, and I'm not sure if its my Diabetes or not.
And I REALLY want to have sex with her, she means the world to me and it would bring us closer, so I'm really confused as to what to do, I basically just can not get horny around her.
She's also getting a little frustrated by it to, being that she wants it to.
So I really would appreciate some advice, I know I'm young, and if we do it, it's protected, thats for sure.
-Thank you.
Recently me and my girlfriend of 2 years have become very sexual, I myself am still a virgin but she is not.
My problem is, is well I can not get an erection when she and me are close to having sex, we've tried a lot of foreplay excluding Oral, but nothing really helps, and I'm not sure if its my Diabetes or not.
And I REALLY want to have sex with her, she means the world to me and it would bring us closer, so I'm really confused as to what to do, I basically just can not get horny around her.
She's also getting a little frustrated by it to, being that she wants it to.
So I really would appreciate some advice, I know I'm young, and if we do it, it's protected, thats for sure.
-Thank you.
Holy cow, calm down! You got advice from everyone, and good advice too--just not everything you wanted to hear.
Some of us said, yes, your diabetes probably has something to do with your problem. Go to a doctor for more info if you're concerned. That's good advice.
Others said, okay, you have a problem, but don't concern yourself too much about it, because you are so young and have so much to experience as a teen that should have priority over sex. That's good advice too, but probably not what you want to hear. Sorry, but it is good advice.
No one was telling you to "$%#! off" or imply that you don't know anything and we're smarter than you. However, we're all older and more experienced (not smarter) than you with not only sex, but life in general.
Your responses show your age.
Whatever you do, good luck.
Some of us said, yes, your diabetes probably has something to do with your problem. Go to a doctor for more info if you're concerned. That's good advice.
Others said, okay, you have a problem, but don't concern yourself too much about it, because you are so young and have so much to experience as a teen that should have priority over sex. That's good advice too, but probably not what you want to hear. Sorry, but it is good advice.
No one was telling you to "$%#! off" or imply that you don't know anything and we're smarter than you. However, we're all older and more experienced (not smarter) than you with not only sex, but life in general.
Your responses show your age.
Whatever you do, good luck.
My son is 10 yrs old. and I know when he gets older I hope he comes and talks to me about sex or anything....I wouldnt want him to go on a forum asking people he doesnt know. Why are you not in school? wheres yur mom?
My son is 10 yrs old. and I know when he gets older I hope he comes and talks to me about sex or anything....I wouldnt want him to go on a forum asking people he doesnt know. Why are you not in school? wheres yur mom?
I don't think that is the message anybody is trying to get across. I am simply saying, when you ask for advice, you always get good advice and bad advice. You have every right to post here but don't get upset b/c people told you there opinions.
And it's a school day??? Aren't you suppose to be in school???
And it's a school day??? Aren't you suppose to be in school???
You're welcome. You are going to get a lot of mothers on this board who have sons or daughters your age, so it's a very sensitive subject when you are so young. I for one had sex for the first time at 16 and trust me it wasn't all that. I wish I had waited a little longer. Although, I stayed with my first for 6 years so it's not like it was a random person. But one thing I made sure of was that I always protected myself and was on birth control. I was very sexually responsible so that's all that I can really tell you. But you still have time Matty to explore sex and I really think you should discuss your concerns with your doctor. They will give you some advice.
WOW...such hostility..you came here looking for advice and you got it! You have to understand where they are coming from....Think before you do!!!
If you didn't want the good with the bad then you shouldn't have posted here. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and that's what they gave you!!!
If you didn't want the good with the bad then you shouldn't have posted here. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and that's what they gave you!!!
Try not to get so upset, it just bothers people sometimes when you are so young and wanted to have sex. To answer your question, diabetes can play a role in why you are unable to get an erection. That is something you should speak to your doctor about. You are so young and you are inexperienced and she isn't....so that may make you a little self-concious. At this point who cares if she gets frustrated. There are so many other things that you two can be doing other than worrying about sex. FYI...sex does not bring you closer. It's the emotional part of a relationship that does that. Just make sure that you are educated about sex, use protection. The last thing you want is an unwanted pregnancy and even worse an STD. AIDS, HIV, Herpes and HPV are still incurable. Just think twice about making this decision and try to have your first experience with someone who won't get mad if you can't get an erection or who will be sensitive to you.
Ok Mattypoo, nobody said $%#! off to you, NOBODY. YOU are the one with a chip on your shoulder. There is NO reason to be abusive to ANYONE here. And yes, we were ALL trying to help you and give advice. I know you're 15 and you think you have all the answers. I understand, I really do! I have two teenage kids and I used to be a teenager too. When I was your age, I thought I had all the answers and adults were just too stupid and didn't understand.
Because you've decided to be abusive, I will no longer respond to you and I'm reporting you to Medhelp.
Because you've decided to be abusive, I will no longer respond to you and I'm reporting you to Medhelp.
Kinda messed up my wording there in the last post. I meant to say find other ways to satisfy yourself other than sexual intercourse. If your girlfriend is pressuring you to have sex, imagine how your life would change if she somehow got pregnant. I have a son who is 14 and I tell him all the time to THINK FOR YOURSELF. You know what is right and what is wrong... if someone wants you to do something that you KNOW is wrong and you do it, then you are a follower. You will then suffer the consequences of these decisions. BE a leader!
Best of luck
Best of luck
Hi Matty. I would also like to encourage you to wait on the sex. You are VERY young. Sex is such a physical and EMOTIONAL experience. Please don't ever let anyone pressure you into anything, even sex. Sex is wonderful and great believe me. But you have a long life to experience this. One day you will grow into a man and fall in love with a woman who you love more than life itself. At some point when you think back on your life, you will realize that you are not the only person this woman has had sex with (and vice versa). I think that you can find alot of other ways to satisfy yourself and each other with the intercourse, if that is truly what you BOTH are interested in.I think teenagers have a tendency to only live for TODAY, think about later on down the road, please. I am certainly not a goody two shoes by any means. I am speaking from experience. Please don't rush it. Some day you will have a beautiful sexual relationship with someone who means the world to you. Take my advice on this one, and please wait. Sex has sooooo many complications that come along with it when it is not "right".
You said it, April2! I read this post and I was going to comment on it, but haven't gotten to it until now.
I was thinking, this kid is 15 with a g/f of two years, and says she's not a virgin. So she was just 12 or 13 years old when she started having sex?! And now she wants to do it with this guy and is getting "frustrated" with him.
I had been 16 for a month when I lost my virginity to my now-ex-b/f, and boy I'll tell you what, if I could take that moment back, I would seriously consider it (but now I have my son, and I wouldn't give him up for the world, so that's where I have mixed feelings about changing my past if I could).
But anyway, I feel sorry for teens in this situation. They're just raging with hormones and super horny (please excuse my phrasing), and they come here asking what they should do with themselves. Why aren't they asking their parents? And then they come here and I wonder, why are *adults* giving them advice on how to go through with this?! Then those adults are the ones who say in the next post, why are teens these days getting pregnant and getting STDs and why are they so sexualized?
Good God, I know I will do everything I can to keep communication like this completely open with my son when he gets this age, and I certainly will provide major supervision of him around girls when he's this age.
To the OP--it's not worth it if she's the one initiating this and getting "frustrated" with you. You've got you're whole life ahead of you and someone in your future with whom you'd rather share your virginity. Trust me. I've been there, done that. It ain't worth it.
I was thinking, this kid is 15 with a g/f of two years, and says she's not a virgin. So she was just 12 or 13 years old when she started having sex?! And now she wants to do it with this guy and is getting "frustrated" with him.
I had been 16 for a month when I lost my virginity to my now-ex-b/f, and boy I'll tell you what, if I could take that moment back, I would seriously consider it (but now I have my son, and I wouldn't give him up for the world, so that's where I have mixed feelings about changing my past if I could).
But anyway, I feel sorry for teens in this situation. They're just raging with hormones and super horny (please excuse my phrasing), and they come here asking what they should do with themselves. Why aren't they asking their parents? And then they come here and I wonder, why are *adults* giving them advice on how to go through with this?! Then those adults are the ones who say in the next post, why are teens these days getting pregnant and getting STDs and why are they so sexualized?
Good God, I know I will do everything I can to keep communication like this completely open with my son when he gets this age, and I certainly will provide major supervision of him around girls when he's this age.
To the OP--it's not worth it if she's the one initiating this and getting "frustrated" with you. You've got you're whole life ahead of you and someone in your future with whom you'd rather share your virginity. Trust me. I've been there, done that. It ain't worth it.
Good grief, the kid is 15 years old! What kid is ready to have sex at 15?! He should be thinking about sports and getting his drivers license. I think we should be encouraging him to wait. This is a big responsibility. Too many kids are taking on adult responsibilites without thinking it through and realizing the reprecusions of what they're doing, such as pregnancy, STD's, not to mention the emotional devestation that can result when they're girlfriend/boyfriend dumps them. Giving your body to someone is one of the most precious, vulnerable things you can do. It shouldn't be taken lightly. Call me old fashioned, but if you ask most people, they will tell you that they regretted having sex so young because they weren't ready. I wish teens today would realize that it's ok to wait until marraige. They should never be made to feel pressured into something this important.
I have heard that diabetics can have trouble with erections. I believe it has something to do with the circulation. Why don't you talk to your dr. next time you see them? Maybe there is a forum for diabetics and this issue is written about. I'm sure there's information on the web about it.
maybe your body is telling you no, maybe its a sign. when the timing is right it will happen, dont rush though make sure u are doing it for both of u not just her.
laura is right u will never get it back.
ksanden
laura is right u will never get it back.
ksanden
Of course your nervous. I think your young and you have a long life ahead of you. Think about it before you do something....
Good luck
Good luck
I've been with her for nearly 2 years now.
And yes, I get the feeling that she is rushing it sort of, I'll talk to her about it.
I'm a little nervous, I've never done things like this before.
And yes, I get the feeling that she is rushing it sort of, I'll talk to her about it.
I'm a little nervous, I've never done things like this before.
I feel when you are ready you will dont rush nothing is wrong if you dont have intercourse. I was 15 when I lost my virginity the guy I truly thought I loved and it wasnt. I feel if you do have intercourse it will not make you closer. Your probably not getting horny cause your nervous and thats normal. Just dont rush into it when your ready it will happen. She does sound like she is rushing you into it cause you said she is getting a little frustrated........Please do the right thing. How long you been with her?
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