I have a thought. He may really also want this to work. If he had a fling and it is over and he is now trying to commit to you, he may realize he has a child on the way. You describe him as a good guy leading up to this and perhaps he is willing to work on things. But communication is key to know if he is coming from a place that is positive. If so, really, couples can accomplish anything in terms of reconciling and fixing issues.
But still make sure you work on your education and own independence. peace and luck to you sweetie
Hi there. I am really sorry to hear this!! Sounds like a very hard time for you.
I do hate when a woman needs a man to take care of her and that factors into decisions to be together. You owe it to yourself and your kids to get into a better situation in life so that being with a man isn't your only way of staying afloat and having a place to live.
Take the government grant money and go to school, trade school, college. Find something you want to do for a job and prepare yourself to do it so that you never have to be dependent on someone like this again. Again, there are grant that pay for these things for people in need. it's totally worth the pain in the butt to do it now for the benefit down the road!!
I honestly don't know what will happen with you and this guy. If you feel he cheated but are still willing to be with him, then you need to put the cheating aside and not bring it up (if you think it is over). If he is currently still cheating, I'm just not sure you should stick around hon. That's too much to ask . . . just for a place to stay to be with a man that sleeps with someone else. Not worth it. But if you want to just let the idea that he cheated go (as he doesn't admit it), then give it a try. But don't keep bringing it up and such.
Be very aware of the situation. That he wanted to go and came back because you are expecting. That is valuable insight that your relationship needs serious work to last. Start talking about what would make the two of you happier. What the problems are . .. talk to them and compromise. Work on the foundation to patch it and make it stronger.
But go to school or job training as soon as possible so that if this does fall apart, you'll be fine. It will also help you to not be so desperate for financial care from a man in terms of the dynamics of being with them. A man can start to feel like that is all a woman wants from them when it is so unbalanced like this.
good luck dear
You have to decide for yourself if you think you can really fully trust him again. Only you know your own heart. Statistically, the odds are against him as most people who cheat once will eventually do it again. Trust is the basis of any relationship, and without it you don't have much.
My question to you is why settle for this guy? Is it because of the baby and the other kids? There are plenty of single moms out there that are making it work. You can too. It's not ideal, but sometimes being single and happy is better than being in a relationship that's miserable, especially when raising children.