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I need help!!
I have been broken up with my ex for 8 months now. I cant get over him. And now Im 21 weeks pregnant and it isnt his child. Theres nothing more that i want then to have him back but ik its not going to happen. I really dont know what to do.. Baby daddy isnt involved with me at all anymore so Im not worried about him. Im worried about my ex and what he is going to say. I feel like Im torturing myself by not being able to get over him, but Im seriously in love with him. All i think about everyday is him. Ik other people have been through this.. Please help
COMMUNITY LEADER
I also have to say that whether the father of your child is involved with you or not---- he'll always be somewhat involved with you for now on . . . for eternity. You've created a child together and hence, he'll have responsilities to the baby you are carrying.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, let me back track for why I said that. Undertaking the care of a child is a huge job and when the baby will be there in a few months, one is hopefully planning for the baby.
I agree that adoption is a consideration that would take much thought. I do think adoption can be a beautiful thing for all parties if the circumstances are right.
and if that was something she was open to, then my advice would be different. If she is not open to it, then I'm less interested in a boyfriend that she feels will not accept her child she is carrying. I would be more concerned about getting ready for this child to be born,
I agree that adoption is a consideration that would take much thought. I do think adoption can be a beautiful thing for all parties if the circumstances are right.
and if that was something she was open to, then my advice would be different. If she is not open to it, then I'm less interested in a boyfriend that she feels will not accept her child she is carrying. I would be more concerned about getting ready for this child to be born,
The other question would be: Does he want you back?
The other options are abortion or adoption, however, either situation should NOT be entered into LIGHTLY.
I wouldn't recommend adopting your baby out so that you could resume your "love life." If that is the ONLY reason you would be doing that I would consider that being pretty selfish.
The other options are abortion or adoption, however, either situation should NOT be entered into LIGHTLY.
I wouldn't recommend adopting your baby out so that you could resume your "love life." If that is the ONLY reason you would be doing that I would consider that being pretty selfish.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Is giving the baby up for adoption something you are open to?? Then you could go back to focusing on your love life without the stakes being so high. Is that something you'd consider?
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