Hey everyone,
Happened to come along this website while searching the internet on my question i'm about to ask, so i decided to create a account and see if anyone could help and give some advice.
So here it goes,
Recently My girlfriend and i just had a baby boy. He is just about 3 weeks old now.
Back in September of 2014 my girlfriend had cheated on me when she went out with friend and got drunk... . I'm sure you guys know where this is going. I forgave her for cheating on me and we moved on, everything was going decently after that had happened. After a little while we continued to have a normal sex life and on October 18 she had a missed period, we didn't think much of it at 1st because shes not always regular. Waited a few days... still nothing, so we took a test and what do you know shes pregnant. Now my girlfriend unfortunately suffers from bi-polar, so that and pregnancy hormones don't mix.
So a few months into the pregnancy her bi-polar and hormones start taking over and she starts telling me this baby isn't mine because she cheated, blah blah.(after baby was born she said she never meant that the baby wasnt mine) At first i think nothing of it but after hearing it multiple times i start thinking maybe there is a possibly this baby isn't mine.
Now i stuck around knowing she cheated, and during the entire 9 months of the pregnancy, i was there in the delivery room when he was born, i cut the cord, and i was the first person to hold him. Now after dealing with her telling me that he wasn't mine during the pregnancy i wanted to do a paternity test now that hes here just for my own peace of mind.
So now i go out and buy a home paternity test from the store, do all the swabbing, seal it in the envelopes and mail it in.. 7 days later we get the results back. Open the results... Test says i am NOT the father.... I am now devastated. i didnt know what to think. Girlfriend, her family and my family all devastated, Because know one thought that he wasn't going to be mine.. that she was just saying that stuff to be mean at the time.
So now everyone is crushed.. No one wants to believe the results of the "home paternity" test, so we agreed to go to a actual lab clinic to do another paternity test. We go their have the lab people swab me, baby, and her. We wait another 5-7 days for the results. Results come back... i am NOT the father... Devastation all over again for everyone.
So now that there is a little back story the question i want help or advice for is .... Do i stay with her and be this childs "step" father... or move on.
I still care about her, and im attached to the little guy... I've been there the entire 9 months.. Plus the 3 weeks hes been in the world...
As of right now the real father doesn't know about him and according to my girlfriend hes the type of person that will do anything to avoid having a baby (obviously not :D lol ). My biggest fear in all of this is if i agree to stay and be this boys father.... is that his biological father decides to come into the picture and i dont want to deal with that..
Thank you any advice or help is appreciated