33 years old & acting like that?!
I dont understand then. It does sound like he's immature. Not all older guys are mature.
It'll be better if you just leave him . You deserve better.
"He's there when I need him.."........hon, I got NO indication from your posts that he is "there" for you.
"Why do I keep going through this and making it harder on me?"........that is the 1000 question. Hon, you need to let this relationship go and try to figure this out on your OWN.
This is NOTHING good for you.
All the best.
That is a great question for yourself. I'd have guessed he was younger from the way you describe him. He's 33?
Sweetie, you can do better than this in a partner. No partner is better than one who puts you second to a video game. Hold out for someone worthy of you.
good luck
I am 21 and he is 33 years old. An this is where it sets me off. This is my first time being with an older man, and I honestly thought they would be more mature. It troubles me knowing a video game can get more attention then me... I have left him once.. Actually just after I read special moms comment to one of my previous issues. And I went back to him. Why do I keep going through this and making it harder on me?
Hi there. Well, in all honesty, saying he is there when you need him doesn't sound quite true from what you describe. He sounds very self absorbed.
Here is why we date------- to decide if someone is a good match for us!
You two sound completely incompatible (and be thankful for that because his habits sound quite undesirable--- be glad you don't sit and play video games for hours until the person you are with feels kooku or that you want no emotional intimacy in the form of talking and connecting).
There is a whole world out there waiting for you in which you can fully be with someone that is like you. That wants to connect on an adult level, a deep level.
I could go through your post piece by piece and tell you what is wrong with this picture but will cut to the chase, You deserve to be happy and to be with a partner that is looking for the same things in life you are, is sexually compatible with you, that wants to talk and connect and be close. And it would be nice if you were with someone who enjoyed doing some of the things you enjoyed doing. Hang in there and make a change for a better match for yourself. good luck
So sorry to hear whats happening to you.
How old are you? if you mind me asking.
I'm 17 & been with my 19y/o bf for 3 years. No we dont live together .
Maybe since you guys live together , he might just want some time by himself for once cause he sees you everyday.
I remember when me & my bf got together, he was so lovey dovey. He use to buy me things, pay alot of attention to me, be with me 24/7 , but i had opposite feelings. I liked him, but had cheated on him numerous times. I haven't done it in 2 years now & i feel great. I felt in love with him, while he was hurt & his lovey dovey side went away. We still & always have had great sex. We still talk lovey dovey sometimes, but the going out alot went away. I feel like he doesnt like seeing me. We recently almost broke up cause i was being really controlling on him going out with his friends. He said he didnt wanna be with me if i was gonna keep acting like that. So i agreed that i would let him have space & i would let him.be with friends, but that it better not be a regular thing to when he doesnt see me. I get worried with him being out cause he likes drinking. Especially with his best friend. He says i should trust him & that if he does drink, he'll tell me. So i agreed.
Maybe you guys should go out. Go out to eat, the movies, bowling, etc..
Me & my bf also thought going out like we used to , can bring that spark back up again like when we first got together.
Maybe talk about the times you guys had in the past. The happy moments. Go to the place you guys met or had a first kiss . Maybe that'll help.
I'm preety sure if he didn't love you, he'll probably leave you. I tell my bf the same thing. Like "do you still love me? Do you still wanna be with me?" & he answers "of course. If i didnt, i wouldve been left you "
Thats just how maybe your bf is.. Ask him those questions.
Good luck :)
He's there when I need him..
.......and You love Him why??