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I am happily married to a wonderful husband with a baby soon on the way. I however cannot let go of my past with an ex who mistreated me. I was a minor when we met and he was 7 years older. He manipulated me into sex and the relationship. I was 13 and he was in his mid 20 when we met. I feel so much disgust and embarrassment. I was only a child almost and I was taken advantage of for 3 years. My parents found out and didn't press charges. I ran into him the other day and feeling s of disgust overwhelmed me. He is a pedophile and I don't want any other girls to get hurt! It's been 2 years can I still press charges?  Please help me.
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Hon, this isn't a legal forum and no one can give you legal advice or tell you what your rights are over the internet.

RR is correct in telling you to seek actual legal advice as I did as well in my PREVOUS post.  Moreover, your ACTUAL age will influence what you will be advised by legal authorities.

All the best sorting this out.
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Well,  if you want to figure this out for yourself,  click on the link below and find your state and the laws pertaining to your state.  If you read through,  you'll see the laws vary WILDLY with some states having no statute of limitations for prosecuting,  some states you have to prosecute within 3 years,  some by your 21st birthday.  Some require that the victim be younger than 13 to prosecute as a felony,  some younger than 18.  You have to go state by state.

https://www.rainn.org/public-policy/laws-in-your-state
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@ RockRose thank you for the helpful advice I would explain the age thing it's just a long story and I don't want to go into it all at the details on the forum.
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If you want opinions on whether you can press charges,  you have to list what state you live in and what ages you were abused,  and how long ago that was.

Reading through your posts your numbers don't add up together.  It's actually important  to know all these things before anyone can give you an opinion on whether you can press charges.  

If it would be easier for you,  call your county legal office and they'll ask you those details before telling you if you can press charges.
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I asked for opinions on if I can press charges not for advice on therapy or for me to go into detail with my age and explain all my history which is no one's business.
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I asked for opinions on if I can press charges not for advice on therapy or for me to go into detail with my age and explain all my history which is no one's business.
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I will agree with math doesn't add up in regards to how old you are.  

"I however cannot let go of my past with an ex who mistreated me."................That's why I suggested therapy.   If you can't get beyond this then you SHOULD seek therapy.  

You need to contact the authorities in your state in regards if you can pursue this or not.

I know you now have the "courage" and all, but you are about to become a mother and you really don't need to have all the extra stress upon you.

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He's not a pedophile - pedophiles are sexually interested in prepubescent children.  He's an immature jerk who took advantage of a girl who was too young to legally give consent to sex.

I can't make the math work.  

So it sounds like you and he had sexual relations for 3 years (but nothing else - your parents didn't know about it for awhile - it's not like he was a boyfriend) and now it's been two years since that ended,  that would make you 18 not 20.  

Can you clarify the math?  It's actually important to have true correct time frames when you look at statutes of limitations for pressing charges.

What state do you live in?
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Why would I talk to a therapist?  And I'm 20 now...the reason why I want to do that is because I built up the courage now and was scared before.
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It's been two years, that would make you now 15 (or 18 if it was the three years)?  And you're married with a baby on the way?  

It's a bit confusing, but I agree with Londres, I'm not sure now is the right time to open that kind of can of worms.  Talk to a therapist.
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How old are you now?  

Being that you are pregnant and you will be giving birth here shortly I am not exactly sure why you would want to pursue this now.

I would recommend you talking to a therapist FIRST and go from there.

Laws vary from country to country, state to state, etc., so you would have to research what your rights are in regards to this situation.
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