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I really need to vent! :(
Sorry ladies this is gonna be really long but I need to let it out before I explode!
My brother has one of his baby moms living here at our house & she irritates the hell out of me. My brother has a kid with her & she was faking that she was pregnant again by him so my brother wouldn't send her to mexico. I can't stand her at all & I can't really do anything because my dad is on vacation & my brother always does what ever he wants. But oh my god I lit wanna punch her in the face! She is soo lazy! The house looks like if only those nasty guys live here. I don't clean the anything because she's the one that's living here even though nobody wants her here & besides I'm always in my room just so I won't have to see her face. I am married & my hubby & I moved in here because my dad offered him a job at my dads company & we're right on money so we can't move right now :( ugh sorry ladies but I just wanna burst out crying!
My brother has one of his baby moms living here at our house & she irritates the hell out of me. My brother has a kid with her & she was faking that she was pregnant again by him so my brother wouldn't send her to mexico. I can't stand her at all & I can't really do anything because my dad is on vacation & my brother always does what ever he wants. But oh my god I lit wanna punch her in the face! She is soo lazy! The house looks like if only those nasty guys live here. I don't clean the anything because she's the one that's living here even though nobody wants her here & besides I'm always in my room just so I won't have to see her face. I am married & my hubby & I moved in here because my dad offered him a job at my dads company & we're right on money so we can't move right now :( ugh sorry ladies but I just wanna burst out crying!
Well, sweetie, you sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders. I'm sure you feel torn, wanting to help your nephew(s) and niece(s), and wanting to be there for Dad. It's okay to be a little selfish and put you and your hubby 1st! Plan to get out on your own ASAP. Do whatever it takes. Maybe your Dad will listen to your concerns and maybe he'll stop enabling your brother. Your brother needs some harsh consequences. I bet he doesn't pay child support huh? And sadly, the women he's made children with sound like they've chosen to ignore all of the red flags and went ahead and got pregnant anyway....sad sad sad.
But thanks for listening & giving me advice ladies. I don't have anyone to talk to, I have my hubby but it's not the same thing as talking to an other lady. Thank you
I feel bad for the poor baby like how you ladies say; they didn't ask for this. But this lady that's living here knew how my brother was way before they started talking & she thought that just by having a kid she was going to be getting money out of him (since my dad has his company dumb people think we have a lot of money)
I love my dad like no other but I truly belive part of it is his fault to (well by the way my brother is) because every mistake that my brother makes my dad always has to fix it. But the 6mnth baby lives here. I just can't take it anymore but we have to save up because we've been buying baby stuff & it leave us with bearly anything, so I hope my dad opens his eyes or we'll be out the door soon
I love my dad like no other but I truly belive part of it is his fault to (well by the way my brother is) because every mistake that my brother makes my dad always has to fix it. But the 6mnth baby lives here. I just can't take it anymore but we have to save up because we've been buying baby stuff & it leave us with bearly anything, so I hope my dad opens his eyes or we'll be out the door soon
I agree 100% with sm.
I feel for you, your dad, and any poor woman that gets sucked in by your brother. I agree that he's acting like an irresponsible loser. The poor children in these situations are really the victims. They didn't get asked to be brought into this world. And, like Dr, Phil says, "looks like the child(ren) lost the parent lottery". How sad.
Tell your Dad it's just an unhealthy environment, whether your hubby is working for him or not. You can still be close and spend lots of time with your Dad and not live with him. Hopefully your Dad sees the light soon too and starts laying down the law for your brother. He's making it easy for your brother to act like a jerk...and continue to not be accountable unfortunately.
Where does the 6 month old baby live?
I feel for you, your dad, and any poor woman that gets sucked in by your brother. I agree that he's acting like an irresponsible loser. The poor children in these situations are really the victims. They didn't get asked to be brought into this world. And, like Dr, Phil says, "looks like the child(ren) lost the parent lottery". How sad.
Tell your Dad it's just an unhealthy environment, whether your hubby is working for him or not. You can still be close and spend lots of time with your Dad and not live with him. Hopefully your Dad sees the light soon too and starts laying down the law for your brother. He's making it easy for your brother to act like a jerk...and continue to not be accountable unfortunately.
Where does the 6 month old baby live?
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Sorry, but your brother sounds like a loser. I couldn't live in this atmosphere. Even with your dad home, it sounds bad. I'd have to save the money to get away. good luck
He just gets mad & starts yelling at me. By brother has 2 baby moms he dosent care for his other child either. But he dosent care about keeping them safe, he wants to send her to mexico (where she is from; my brother fixed her a permit so she can move over here with him when they were actually together) it just really frustrates me that he is 6 years older than me & I understand things more than he does
& oh when my brother is home like when him & his gf get into a fight. He's always here at the house smoking weed. I tell him not to do it because I have a baby inside me & plus he has a kid that's 6 months old; but he just dosent care. I'm so tierd of it, I just keep my self locked in my room all day
COMMUNITY LEADER
Your dad sounds like a loving and generous man. He may really want to help his grandson, the son of this lady. ?? Time will tell. I can certainly understand your frustration with her though!
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Well, that's a good point. You are right, HE should be the one with his child. When you call him and ask him what the deal is, what does he say?
I just wonder if this is about keeping his child in a safe place but then you say he has little interest in his child. But that is the thing. The child is family no matter if the mom is annoying or not. I'm not sure what you can do about that.
But I'd ask your brother what the heck he is doing--- he needs to be with his son. ??
confusing situation. and agree that I'd start a little slush fund to perhaps get your own place with your husband and kids. good luck
I just wonder if this is about keeping his child in a safe place but then you say he has little interest in his child. But that is the thing. The child is family no matter if the mom is annoying or not. I'm not sure what you can do about that.
But I'd ask your brother what the heck he is doing--- he needs to be with his son. ??
confusing situation. and agree that I'd start a little slush fund to perhaps get your own place with your husband and kids. good luck
But thanks lady's, I just really needed to get that out, my dad dosent want me to move out because I'm his "little girl" still. I did move out when I got married but he told me & my husband to move back in so he can work in my dads company. So i guess I'll just have to suck it up till my dad comes back from vacation
Well he should be loving here with HIS son but he can't even do that. He's never home, he dosent sleep here either. He just comes home to shower & to change & then he leaves again. I don't know why I'm the one that has to be stuck with these people that HE is supposed to be responsible for not me.
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Well, she . IS the mother of your brother's child. The child is your nephew . . . FAMILY. Hard to think of him with nowhere to live or back in Mexico. Right? Doesn't your brother have a right to live with his child?
You have to get out of there ASAP. That's literally the only thing that's going to make this situation better. You should want to get out of there and actively, aggressively pursue getting your own place as quickly as possible.
Oh geez, hon, there is so much in your post that made my jaw drop, I'm not sure where to begin!
For one, you and your family (hubby, kids) need to make finding your own place SOON a HUGE priority!!! That house sounds like a chaotic mess to live in! That's not a good environment for ANYONE, but especially the children.
Maybe when your Dad comes back, you could have a sit down with him, about the living arrangements? I feel for your Dad, he sounds like he's busy bailing everyone out, providing a place to live. Sometimes, tough love is warranted...like with your brother. You say "ONE" of his baby mamas? YIKES! How many children does he have, and how many women has he gotten pregnant? Geez! He needs to learn how to use birth control or say NO! Your brother making children all over the place shouldn't be your Dad's problem to fix. What's up with sending this woman to Mexico? Is that where she's from? I didn't get that comment.
Also, I understand your frustration with this woman not doing anything around the house, but YOU getting mad and saying you won't do anything because she doesn't isn't the answer, and that's not fair to your Dad. I'm not saying you have to clean up after her, but you should absolutely be doing things around the house. Hopefully your Dad will have an "ah ha" moment and kick BOTH her and your brother out. NO offense, but he doesn't sound like he does anything to help either.....he's off at (another) GF's house while you and this woman are left at the house. UGH...what a nightmarish situation!! I FEEL for you.
So, get your ducks in a row sweetie...and make plans to get your OWN place, ASAP! Your Dad may even be willing to help you pay for a place for a little while until you can afford it...versus having you all in his house, you know? You'll be SO much happier all around if you guys have your OWN space!
As for her living there, there's nothing YOU can do about it unfortunately, that's up to Dad. Hopefully he will see that he's being taken advantage of, and he can tell your brother that HE needs to find another place for her and his baby to stay. Your brother basically dumped her off there in the house for other people to have to deal with...while he's off having fun. If I were you, I'd be more mad at your brother! It's actually HIS fault that you and your Dad (and hubby etc) have to deal with that crap.
Good luck to you hon....hopefully a reasonable solution can be found STAT!
For one, you and your family (hubby, kids) need to make finding your own place SOON a HUGE priority!!! That house sounds like a chaotic mess to live in! That's not a good environment for ANYONE, but especially the children.
Maybe when your Dad comes back, you could have a sit down with him, about the living arrangements? I feel for your Dad, he sounds like he's busy bailing everyone out, providing a place to live. Sometimes, tough love is warranted...like with your brother. You say "ONE" of his baby mamas? YIKES! How many children does he have, and how many women has he gotten pregnant? Geez! He needs to learn how to use birth control or say NO! Your brother making children all over the place shouldn't be your Dad's problem to fix. What's up with sending this woman to Mexico? Is that where she's from? I didn't get that comment.
Also, I understand your frustration with this woman not doing anything around the house, but YOU getting mad and saying you won't do anything because she doesn't isn't the answer, and that's not fair to your Dad. I'm not saying you have to clean up after her, but you should absolutely be doing things around the house. Hopefully your Dad will have an "ah ha" moment and kick BOTH her and your brother out. NO offense, but he doesn't sound like he does anything to help either.....he's off at (another) GF's house while you and this woman are left at the house. UGH...what a nightmarish situation!! I FEEL for you.
So, get your ducks in a row sweetie...and make plans to get your OWN place, ASAP! Your Dad may even be willing to help you pay for a place for a little while until you can afford it...versus having you all in his house, you know? You'll be SO much happier all around if you guys have your OWN space!
As for her living there, there's nothing YOU can do about it unfortunately, that's up to Dad. Hopefully he will see that he's being taken advantage of, and he can tell your brother that HE needs to find another place for her and his baby to stay. Your brother basically dumped her off there in the house for other people to have to deal with...while he's off having fun. If I were you, I'd be more mad at your brother! It's actually HIS fault that you and your Dad (and hubby etc) have to deal with that crap.
Good luck to you hon....hopefully a reasonable solution can be found STAT!
Reyna323- I'm sorry your going threw this as well! It ***** because you can't even be comfortable. How far along are you?
That is YOUR dads house do not ever let some random run **** stand up for yourself!!
I understand your frustration. My boyfriend rents a room to his sister and shes a lesbian and has her nasty girlfriend living there with her and she is so lazy, she cooks and leaves all her dishes and pans unwashed and sometimes they when theyre being intimate her girlfriend moans loudly so everyone could hear....i feel like she does it on purposes lol its so gross giving the fact that they are lesbians what could she possibly be moaning and groaning over :\ maybe its me being hormonal but i dont like her and she seems to be jealous that im pregnant....my boyfriend plans to have them move when the baby comes cause it is a bit uncomfortable having a nasty stranger in the home
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