Turns out he may be diabetic. Maybe he should get checked and you may owe him an apology. I have had these same kind of stains on my boxers and turns out my doctor thinks I'm diabetic. Crystalized sugar in the urine. Google it, it's a thing.
Just DYING to know, WAS HE CHEATING?! I say YES HE WAS/IS! But I ALSO believe if you have children together you'll MOST LIKELY still be with him. Not for nothing! We ARE GIRLS! It IS our Cross to Bare.
I have a similar problem , we don't have sex but my husband had sperm like stains on his pants every working day and not at the week end while he's at home. I have asked him about the stains but get the don't know reply! I hired a privet detective who came up with something going on but not sure which woman. He works in a government building and it was difficult to watch him all the time. He never came home late or did overtime and im just as confused now!! He would loose him job if he did have a relation ship at work, so is he just having a quickie fumble at work or what.?
Are we still talking about this boxer-short thing?
Ok I think everyone is a little hard on you that you are spending too much time looking at your mans underwear. I agree with you that if there is something strange on your man's underwear I would start to investigate. A man is totally different than women, we have discharge that leads to white stains in our pants but a man only has white smudges if he had sex and then put his underwear back on in a hurry. He shouldn't have white smudge even if he was masterbating. However, you can not accuse until you have facts so keep your eyes and ears open like someone else said about cell phones, strange text messages or changed behavior or extra time at work. Good luck!
I think you are putting way too much time into examining his dirty underwear. Sorry, but I just can't wrap my mind around why anyone would do that unless other suspicions led to examining dirty underwear as a last resort, but certainly not the first.
From what you describe about him, it honestly sounds like he is a faithful husband. I can't come to suspect him of cheating from you simply describing his dirty underwear and his day to day schedule. His work sounds too demanding and public to have the opportunity to cheat, or even look at porn and pleasure himself while there.
Then you explain how he comes home to you, and you have a consistent sex life, so you describing a sex life that is nearly every day, I can't see where that would give him the desire or much opportunity to cheat.
If you are so concerned over a few random stains in his dirty underwear, why don't you just ask him?
Tell him, "I've noticed your boxers have stains in them when I put them in the wash. Have you been alright? Do you think you need to see a doctor? Or has anything been going on in our sex life that affects you afterwards?"
That way, you're not accusing him, but you'll get a reaction, and if it's defensive, then *maybe* you could justify some suspicion to him cheating. But if it's more surprised and/or somewhat weirded out, and he doesn't know and truly looks confused, then I think you've brought enough attention to the issue and you should just let it go.
He may have a mild infection after all that is benign or unaffecting to you, and carries no symptoms for him other than occasional discharge, and a simple round of antibiotics would fix it.
But seriously...I think you need to find a more productive thing to put your focus into besides the stains in your husband's dirty underwear.
I agree with the above. I think you need to not be so interested in his boxers. I've honestly never examined my husbands in 10 years of marriage. I think a significant other can be watchful but I would hate for it to fall into the category of paranoid. Not saying you are---------- but I'm thinking you need to just dump those boxers into the wash and quite taking a magnifying glass to them.
What kinds of things do you do outside of the relationship? Do you have lots of girlfriends, other mom friends? Do you work? Do you have hobbies and things you like to do seperate from your boyfriend? I'm not sure, of course, but I wonder if having a few more of those things in your life might help you be less worried about your partner.
Wish you lots of luck. he doesn't sound like he is cheating to me.
Masturbation is not cheating. And I think these feelings are your own insecurity stemming from the pregnancy. Stains on the underwear should not be the only thing that is making you suspect your husband. If he were cheating, there would be more than just that. Is he disconnected from you emotionally, does he have weird phone calls coming in on his phone, is he very secretive with his email and cell phone? Does he leave the room or house to make calls? Is he missing in action for hours and he doesn't pick up your calls? Does he disappear or work late and not come home in the wee hours of the morning? Does he say he's going somewhere and then wind up somewhere else? You see, there are other aspects of cheating and so if you see no other signs then my guess is NO, he's not cheating.
Sweetie, when you go to examining your mans underwear and smelling them, it is a strong signal that you got issues. To go to those lengths and to automatically assume he is cheating is not good. Maybe he self pleasured, who knows. I think you need to hold out on the verdict until he represents a few more signs of infidelity.