I thought my anger was valid

[Stephymarie92]

Yesterday I go out with my bf and his 2 year old son. We went shopping then to do laundry. So every time we go out I try to help him with his son but his son clings onto him like a spidermonkey. He tried to give him to me and he started screaming so I moved away. He got upset. Then I guess he got a few text messages from the child's mother that leaves him further upset. So when we get in the car he starts yelling at me like why didn't I help him with the baby(he doesn't like me). Then he said "well what the f*** are you good for" then I just stop responding. Am I wrong for not wanting to speak to him? My feelings are still hurt. I can't believe that came out of his mouth.

[Londres70]

OMG, are you pregnant by this guy?  If you are God help you because things are going to only get worse when baby #2 arrives.  He can't even handle one child let alone two.

[calmshell]

Hi Stephy, saying something as derogatory as 'what the f*** are you good for' to your gf/bf is just hurtful and immature. Does he do this in other instances too, not just with the 2 year old? Either way, I'd feel so utterly low if he said that to me, I'd truly not want to continue with him- someone that says something THIS rude and hurtful will surely do that again, and it shows he doesn't CARE about you, and just flies off the handle:( I'd def. make moves to not be w/this guy much longer- a friend of mine said don't sweep red flags under the rug ...

[Londres70]

"So when we get in the car he starts yelling at me like why didn't I help him with the baby(he doesn't like me). Then he said "well what the f*** are you good for" then I just stop responding. Am I wrong for not wanting to speak to him? My feelings are still hurt. I can't believe that came out of his mouth."

And you are still with him after this?

[specialmom]

Hi.  I'd break up with this man.  A.  He handles stress by blaming other people (you) and yelling (unacceptable).  B.  He parents his child in a way that is really not great (expecting others to just take his kid) and plans a day for a two year old that is errands and laundry (no 2 year old enjoys that).  

get out while you can and find a guy who either doesn't have a child or handles things in a more mature and respectful fashion.

You don't need a hot head, stressed out jerk like this.  good luck

[Stephymarie92]

And his mother and father haven't been together. They decided to co-parent like 2 or 3 months after he was born.

[Stephymarie92]

I spend time with him I take him out and everything. When it's just me and his son where fine. He listens to me and he didn't cry or scream he speaks to me. His father baby's him and he knows I'm not going to baby him.

[Angie_18]

Try to spend some quality time with his son, he needs to feel comfortable around you. He's still young & doesn't completely understand the situation between his mom & dad

[Stephymarie92]

Damn*

[Stephymarie92]

It could be the stress of having another child too but dawn ever time I get mad I don't take his head off. Every time he gets mad over anything I'm the target. What would you do?

[babyberry000]

It really just sounds like he was frustrated having to handle the kid being a brat by himself