IS IT OK FOR A LADY 2 DATE GUY 3 YEARS YOUNGER?

Question

Hi all I have a question and I would like some honest responses & if you or someone you knows had a simiar stry please share.

I'm 25 years old. I met this guy who is 3 years younger than me, hes 22. I never dated a guy my age or younger. I was always attracted to older men. This guy I met is very responsible and mature for his age. I was very suprised. Him and I met thru a mutual friend. We got along very great. The only thing that bothers me is his age. We started texting and talking on the phone everyday since April. I really like and hes so into me. He wants to start dating me. I'm skeptical because of the age difference. I'm not sure if I should date him or not. He is a great guy but I don;t want ppl to judge me.

Is a 3 year age difference ok if the lady is the older one? Would any ladies here dats a younger guy? and guys too would you date a lady who is older? I;m very confused and would like some advise & similar stories. I don't want to lose the oppurtunity with a great guy becase of the age difference.

AnnieBrooke · Answer

Hi, Cailey, there is a difference when you are below the age of full adult maturity, since after all, a 12-year-old is not usually as mature as a 14-year old especially if the younger guy is a boy. But have fun anyway. Keep it light, do mostly casual things that kids and teens like, and don't lead him to things that are older than he is, in terms of language and *cough* 'physical activity' if you get my drift. In the end you two will probably come out of it friends, not ultimately boyfriend and girlfriend, but in the meantime enjoy your crush.

Cailey0203 · Answer

I have the same problem he' 12 and i'm 14 and i'm older, so i thought itd be weird. I like your advice btw.

Kayleeleon · Answer

You’re old enough to date him. No one will judge you. See if it was that you were 18 and he was 15. That’d be different, shouldn’t be but it is what it is. However!!! If you fall for someone go ahead with it! 3 yr difference is nothing! My mom married my stepdad and they are a 12 yr age difference! Literally don’t sweat it cause in the end the only thing that matters is your happiness! So go for it hun!

imanaddict · Answer

As long as he treats you good, there is nothing wrong with it at all IMO. My sister married a guy 4 years younger than her and here they are 21 years of marriage later and still going strong.

sweetpea03 · Answer

3 years is nothing and I doubt anyone would even notice. It actually makes more sense in the long run for the woman to be older, as women live longer than men do. It's just about maturity levels, if he is really ready for what you may want if you're looking to get married. It takes guys longer to mature, so make sure he has the same wants and goals. good luck.

teko · Answer

I dont think that age matters as much as maturity does. I have met people who seemed immature for their age and others who were more mature than their years. My only concern would be the longevity of the relationship and that certainly would be based on the maturity of this 22 year old guy. Things such as the same likings and dislikes, same future goals and how to go about achieving them matters as well. I dont think when you were born really has much to do with it other than you may get wrinkles a few years before him! LOL, Sorry! At your ages I guess you dont got to worry about that an awful lot now do you?

pitter · Answer

yes ... it is totally okay, and  it can be great!

myenzoorka · Answer

Why worry about what anyone else thinks?  And who could possibly frown on a 3 year difference??!?!?!?!  You need to have confidence in your decision for yourself - if you rely on others to make this decision for you because you think it's wrong, it will get in the way of your relationship with him.  

Either way, an older woman with a younger man is far from unheard of!  *cough* Demi and Ashton seem to be a very popular couple - and that age difference makes 3 years look like nothing!  

As for experiences - nearly every woman in my family is married to a younger man.  Some are older only by a year or so, but some are older by 7, 10, and even more years.  Just take some time to figure out if the age difference really bothers you before you waste his and your time on a relationship that may be doomed because of an insignificant age difference.

SeriousSam · Answer

Sure I was dating 39, 40 year olds when I was 19!

specialmom · Answer

My sister married at 26 to my brother in law that was 23 at the time.  She's now almost 50 and he's that same three years younger.  Never even crossed my mind or anyone else's that this was much of an age issue or female older than male thing at all.  It isn't like you are 15 and he's12.  

So, it is A okay and I don't think anyone will ever think about it as hard as you have.  Enjoy your new romance!