I'm New Here and Looking for Some Support

[nathalieplan]

I am very new to this site but found it and thought that I would give it a try and hopefully find some support through here for the things that boggle me down. I'm thirty one years old and have been diagnosed with PTSD and Clinical Depression. I am an adult child of a father that commited suicide in front of my eyes as a young child and I am still struggling to deal with that. I have a boyfriend that sometimes can be the most amazing amn ever and other times can be the biggest child ever when I feel that I need him the most. Example: If I even show any emotion except happiness, he will make some excuse and ignore me until I get over what emotion it is. We have talked about this and we are working on it but its a slow process. I currently see a psycharist once a month who has me on Pristiq 50 mg a day and for the most part, it is does help me. But then there are those hard days where I feel like no one cares about me and I feel so alone. The only side effect that the Pritiq has given me is weight gain. I once was 115 pounds before I started taking it two years ago and now I am currently 220 pounds. I recently just joined Weight Watchers to get control of my weight and back to where I once was. Because I know that the weight I am now isnot healthy for me phsyically and emotionally. I am hoping I can make some new friends here that truly understand what I am going through.

[Londres70]

Oh dear, you have definitely been through alot.  

Well, unfortunately some psych meds have this weight gain side effect.  I have seen thin patients become overweight because of them, however, their psych issues are being controlled.  Just have to manage to eat in a different manner and exercise and see if the weight comes back down.  

Well, if your bf is willing to go to therapy with you then that speaks volumes in my opinion; he obviously cares about you.  Strange how he has a problem dealing with emotions besides happiness from you because people aren't always happy 24/7 and expressing different emotions are normal in my opinion unless you are depressed 90% of time.  If he can't overcome this, I just don't know where that would leave things between you and him.  You definitely have to be with someone who is extremely understanding of your past and the present issues you grapple with because of it.  

Well, I do wish you all the best with sorting this out and WELCOME.  


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[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, welcome to med help!  Congrats on joining weight watchers too!  There is a weight loss group here at med help that you might like.  They do weigh ins on Sunday and everything.  It might be a nice adjunct to your weight watchers group.  

One thing that happens too is if someone is not getting their needs met, they put up barriers.  That can even be something physical like weight.  A dear friend of mine gained 100 pounds after her first year of marriage.  She was once sexually abused as a child and it has been determined that plays a role into her adult issues with weight.  She literally has a wall of flesh around her.  This is not uncommon.

I am glad that your boyfriend is willing to work through issues that he has because as it stands now, that is enough of a red flag that I wouldn't want you to commit long term to him.  Hopefully it will work out.  You could always do couples therapy to help it along.

Anyway, I am so glad that you have joined and look foward to getting to know you dear.  peace