Hello! I am currently in a marriage, 4 yrs, been together 8 and friends for 10. We have no children, working on school right now. Unfortunately, I am starting to have doubts about our marriage. I gave up my career dreams to stay together in the same city as my husband while he finished his masters program. I went into another career, one that I like, think i will like when I graduate, but one that wasn't my dream. My husband left last year to go to school in another state, to work on his phd, before I finished my schooling. He lives 10 hours away. I didn't want him to go, but said if he felt he needed to, so be it. So, we tried it. And now, I feel like everything is falling apart. I am second guessing everything. Why would he want to go in the first place? Isn't a marriage hard enough, let alone going for 2-3 weeks at a time without seeing each other? Who would want that; is that selfish? Which is another point, I feel like we do everything he wants to do, and feel like I have lost myself in this marriage. We all have goals. I feel like I prioritized family before career and he did the opposite. I find myself getting more resentful. I want someone who wants to be with me, wants a family. And yet another parameter, I met someone else, nothing is going on, we no longer talk because I am married and cannot have anything further; but, doesn't this in itself mean something? Will it happen again? Would it be better now to end this if it isn't going to work out than later with kids? Any words of wisdom would help. Thanks for listening. I think I just needed to get that out.