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Had to give blood today for labs. My inappropriate doctor was sitting at the nurse's station and my 3 almost 4 year old son went to hug him. In the process, the doctor kissed my son on the cheek and hugged him back. Normal or inappropriate?
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I think you might have the problem here. You have posted about this doctor many times. If it is a real issue with you have then please get a new doctor. Your very first post on this suggests you are attracted to him... Actually, it says you find him attractive but do not know how to proceed as you are both married. This would suggest you wish something could happen between you if you were not married. If you were really concerned, why would you not just move on to a new doctor. Instead it seems like you want someone to say yes he is in to you. I think you talk to your husband about this and see what he says.
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Unusual but kinder than usual hearing about .
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I don't think he likes me, he could lose his license. He is a nice person and I don't want another doctor. My husband knows about the whole situation and we are working on a few things. If we were both single, he'd be a great catch. Reality is it is DOA.
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Sounds like you're just trying to stir up problems. That behavior isn't appropriate. Stop posting about it and leave him alone. Sounds like you're seeing if you can make a quick buck off of this somehow. I'm sure you can find a shady, morally devoid lawyer to help you.
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You are so wrong but that's ok. I'm just trying to understand the situation not ruin his life. But you do not see the messages on patient portal or fb messages that I get from him and that's ok.
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363281 tn?1353103243
Sounds OK to me. Most doctors can be rude, so be glad he is compassionate.

I have requested for this post to be placed in another forum, this is for general health. Good luck.
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973741 tn?1342346373
Hi nursesrock. First, let me say that I totally agree--  nurses rock! :-)  

Your post was moved to the Relationships forum most likely because Med Help is a medical web site and this is a non medical question basically about your relationship with your doctor.  

I must be honest, I find the entire thing very much a problem of your own making.  This really does have a simple fix.  You are a health care consumer and he is a provider.  Find a new provider.  But from reading your previous posts in your history, it seems you are thriving on the drama of this situation.  You go back for it.  You look for it.  You are part of it.

I'm speaking bluntly because it's unhealthy.  

I would end the drama and this secondary gain situation you have for yourself (if you believe he is attracted to you, it makes you feel good no matter how much you protest inappropriate).  Then it is over.  Problem is solved.  

I'm being blunt as I think you are playing with fire.  And you are playing with someone's career and life.  I don't know if this is in your mind.  Or not.  Either way, the right thing to do is to extricate yourself from the situation.  because if it is in your mind, you need to get on and focus on your real life and if it's not, don't let him be distracted by you or distract yourself by him.  

Find a new doctor.  good luck
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3060903 tn?1398568723
Don't let him be distracted by you or distract yourself by him.   Find a new doctor.

Couldn't have said it better. You are not comfortable with his bedside manner. It is inappropriate for you to continue to be 1/2 a part of this drama, it take two to tango. One thing for sure, I'm 200% sure your husband is not happy hearing about this continually no matter what his relationship is with you (hjow he may enable whatever your behavior).

How would you like to hear that your husband refuses to leave a great looking young female doctor who he feels is taking liberties and whom "has feelings" for your husband ? I personally got my husband a male physician, as well as my having a female physician, just because as a married couple it makes much more sense. I think you should be thinking more about your husband and less about this young good looking doctor who you feel is "a great catch". I feel really sorry for your husband, frankly. I can imagine that his feelings are not always placed as a priority in your marriage. and that's quite sad.

Please, from what has transpired, do the right thing, and move on to a female doctor. It makes the most sense right now.
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3060903 tn?1398568723
Not only is your husband having to bare this constant chatter unnecessarily, now you're allowing an "inappropriate doctor" to kiss and hug your 3 year old? WHY? This is more about you doing something that is not in the best interest of your family and not putting them first. Regardless of any way that you perceive this to be affecting your husband, the fact is that is a pain in his @#$% to continually hear of a young beautiful doctor caring inappropriately about his wife.
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13167 tn?1327197724
Your first post was kind of odd,  nursesrock,  saying you're very attracted to him and you two could fall for each other.

You're dangerous to him,  IMHO,  and his whole career.  I don't know where you live,  but your doctor sounds like my OBGYN.  Very funny,  sweet,  huggy,  all his patients love him.  He's the same way with men too - warm and funny,  joking,  affectionate.

When you're pregnant and you feel gross and ugly it's a sweet thing to have a doctor who is endearing and affectionate.  And happily married,  I will say,  he brags about his wife and kids all the time and insists on seeing pics of your kids too.  

I don't know why you love/hate this guy,  but I would suggest finding maybe a female OB so you won't be so conflicted.
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1268057 tn?1462734870
Yes, she is very dangerous to him, well in particular his career.
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I agree with RR and SM.  You sound like you need help badly and feel sorry for you because you are living in some kind of fantasy world.  When rational and sane people have concerning issues with their physicians to the point they start to feel uncomfortable they find another physician, not stick around wanting more.  You are in need of a physician, but not this type.  You need to sort your psychological issues as soon as possible.

I didn't know it was a crime for a physician to hug and kiss a 4 year old in public and in front of YOU.  It's not like he took your son behind close doors and was molesting him.  Your sense of reality is warped.  

Again, you need help dear.
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I am in agreement with the others. Based on all of your many posts about this doctor, it's very clear that you're obsessed with him and unfortunately for him you hyper-analyze every detail of every interaction looking for things to obsess about with him. This is not a healthy situation for you or for him. You really, really need to leave that practice and find a new doctor before you take things too far and possibly destroy his career with your obsession.
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517872 tn?1465669131
I think This is completely normal.
We are humans and things run in and out of our minds. But it is important to do the right thing and always stay away from what you know is not correct. I wish you all the best with your health and happiness in your family. Stay Cool !
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517872 tn?1465669131
Good approach and nice attitude
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3060903 tn?1398568723
I agree with all of the above. My comment about your son being hugged and kissed by a family doctor, was not meant to say that the act was inappropriate, rather that you felt the doctor has a problem and you are involving your son, which is a problem in that you are not being protective when you perceive a possible problem.

I too think that you should leave this doctor's practice altogether, and find a female doctor, for you own good, and for the doctor, and for your own family. No good can come from your continued obsessing, when it seems there is no problem, but an over active imagination on your part.
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517872 tn?1465669131
Well said!
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