Infidelity: one more step.

[amoreneta]

Hi,

First of all, sorry for my bad english. This is not my mother language, but I have something to tell, and it is not easy. I hope you understand.

I met my wife when we was about 17 years old and we got married ten years ago. She is the love of my live. We have two lovely children.

I wasn't with any other person until I met her, and I am the only man with she has been. We have shared everything, bad and good moments, she supported to me when I needed, and I supported to her when she needed.

Live hasn't been always so nice. In fact, the worst moment of my live was two years ago. We had a crisis, and almost we broke our marriage. I decided to fight, to change many things that wasn't right, and finally we fixed.

Now we are better than ever and I hope that this love that we have each to the other, that is stronger than before, continues for the rest of our live.

But, although I can change the present, it's impossible to change the past. And what happened before makes me feel horrible:

Over three years ago I had relations with the sex workers. I remember that at that time I had few reasons, now all of them sound stupid for me. With them I had unprotected oral sex. At that time, low risk for std was enough for me, now is a anxiety.

I tested for everything I could, and all the results was negative. So, until few weeks ago I was relative calmed, but since that I started to read about the famous HPV and cervical cancer, and my worries appeared again.

Although, in my opinion is better to haunt an infidelity if have not intentions of repeating again, this changes my perspective.

Because she have been always with me and because she supposes that I have been always with her, she doesn't get tested with the pap smear so oft as she due, so if I don't tell her the truth, she could develop any kind of complication too late, although maybe this quite rare.

And this is what I have in my head every hour, every day.

After put this in words, I'm sure that the best is to tell her the truth, or part of the truth, to confess the infidelity indeed. Maybe, what I'm looking for is a third way: How can I save my wife and my marriage at the same time?.

Thank you in advance for your answers.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and yes it is. Post your HPV concerns in the HPV forum as you will get excellent advise there that will put this issue behind you.

[amoreneta]

I understand how important is this. The thing is that as well I understand pap smear is for looking for abnormal cells caused by HPV that is contracted by sex exposure. Am I right?

[ROSYouralright]

Just stress to your wife the importance of pap smears & for her health she should definitely be checked regularly.. With or without your past infidelity.. Pap smears are important for women & not just in regards to std's.

[amoreneta]

*three sex workers