Sometimes we act the way you describe when we are stressed or other things are going on and we need an outlet. Really crucial to this relationship or any other that you get a handle on it. This becomes a pattern. No one will stick around indefinately for nagging, sniping, or lots of little aggrevations. It's not healthy to in the long run.
I would focus on things like finding the job you seek and working on yourself. Try to keep that compartmentalized. And dig deep as to what is under the surface of your treatment of your boyfriend. Honestly, he's in still in school---- he's gonna grow tired of this nit picky/neurotic stuff.
Do your thing, let him do his (which he should also do while in his last year of school). Try to have fun with him while working on the other things in your life. good luck
Hi Zelda, it dosent seem that you have figured out what relationships are all about and its definatly not about one person. Its about 2 strangers from different backgrounds, that carry baggage from their lifes experience, who meet and try to blend their wisdom into one setting.
During this meeting, both parties try to get their views across, and pick up clues on how to say things, These buttons are pushed when views are not compatible and the struggle continues till the point gotton across.
The key to a happy relationship is finding out what the other person is all about and not pushing these buttons to gain understanding but acting out of love and patience.
You have to figure why you're being snappy with him. Does it even have anything to do with him? Sarcasm or being short with your partner is not going to serve you well, in any relationship. It's well worth the effort to understand (talk to a therapist) about why you communicate the way you do, and progressing past that. The golden rule really does apply in close and loving relationships, Do unto others as you have them do unto you. I think he's reacting to something that you're doing that's not right and that's why he's not apologizing. He feels that you would be hypocritical should you be receiving his apology if he was reacting to something you've said. . Do you say your sorry every time that you snap? Don't expect him to do something that you haven't put into practice yourself. The thing is "I'm sorry" or "I'm neurotic" only goes so far in a relationship. The action needs to be changed, and quick. Life is too short. Fix the problem, always be cordial, and then see what's happening in your relationship.
Can you stop being snippy and see what happens?