Is it normal to do those things in bed?

Hi,
Me and my husband are newly wedd.then our first night he taste my lower part I was so shock he almost eat that part.I wanted to back out but he stoped me and he said sorry if he did that he want only to makes me happy and to feel loved.I dont understand because I though he almost disrespect me but I try to understand him and I agree I feel so speciall when he did that.Then the following day of our honeymoon he do that again but after that he want me to hold his ****.I might be so stupid and moron but its new for me.He is the second and last man for me, my ex bf did not do those things when we are in bed before and that was 3 yrs.
Please help me I love my husband so much and I dont want to disappoint him by acting like this and maybe this is the reason why I get arrouse takes a minutes sometimes did not reach the orgasm...I am 24 yrs.old and my husband is 46 yrs.old. We almost 2 yrs.as bf and gf after desided to get married.

[Vance2335]

That is called oral sex, it is normal for a man to do that.

[wyrpamatz]

Yea it is normal my husband does it too me my ex bf didn't do it either to me but my husband does and it feels so good just enjoy it. If he wants you to hold it go ahead unless you dont want to of course. My husband tells me too hold it as well sometimes I do sometimes I don't just depends how I feel. But if you don't feel comfortable having him down there tell him I'm sure he'll understand.

GOOD LUCK :-)

[nursegirl6572]

Congrats on getting married!

You're obviously VERY new to sexual experiences of these kinds.  Everything you described is normal, and usually considered "foreplay".

There can be all kinds of activities involved in foreplay, which is meant to get each partner aroused and ready for sex.  There can be oral sex (both ways....him performing on you and you on him), mutual masturbation, where you stimulate your partner with your hand, kissing and oral stimulation of the nipples.  For a man to a woman, masturbation may involve manual stimulation of your clitoris, and him inserting a finger into your vagina.  For a woman, it would be a stroking motion of the shaft of the penis.

It's understandable that you're a little unsure, being that this is new to you.  My advice is to try to relax and just concentrate on the arousal, and the sensations you feel when your hubby is doing different things to your body.  Try not to overthink it.  

It sounds like he has been good about trying to reassure you. Just be honest with him, that you're a little nervous about this, as it is new territory for you.  Tell him you want to learn and discover one another, and make sex pleasurable for both of you.  Also, be sure to tell him there may be things you are uncomfortable with at first, and he needs to respect that, and hold off if you're telling him NO.

You may also want to read up on sex.  You can google "sex instructional books for women", and you will find all kinds of things.  Don't think that watching adult films will teach you properly about sex...in case your hubby suggests that.  It's okay to watch if you're agreeable, but the way that sex acts are portrayed in those films is not usually very realistic.

Very best to you, I hope you and your husband enjoy discovering one another, and taking your relationship to new levels.  Take care.

[nursegirl6572]

I forgot to mention, it may take you a while to reach orgasm, as you're just learning how your body reacts to different kinds of stumulation.  That's okay, don't put a lot of pressure on yourself.  

I WILL tell you that most orgasms occur with stimulation of the clitoris.  Oral sex is a great way to acheive orgasm for the first time.  When he does that to you, try to be very relaxed, and it's okay to tell him when something feels good, or doesn't.  Once you relax a bit and are able to concentrate on the arousal you're feeling, an orgasm will happen, and you will be amazed at the feeling.  Once you've felt an orgasm and understand what causes it for YOU, you'll improve your sex life.

[gamcas]

Hello everyone,
Thank you so much for giving me those advise. I just want to tell you guys I now feel that orgasm although not so strong but I know it will improve and can practice. I also tell my husband about this and he lough at me he is very happy, he said that he did'nt know that I spent times for this just to learn more...I stop working bec.we decided to concentrate to have a baby very soon, he is a businessman and I love the way he stare at me when he got home he said that he love to stare at my face and BINGGO I started to get hot only for those stared.Thanks nursegirl6572 ur suggested google page teach me a lot..and to you wyrpamatz I try all your advise to tell to my husband if I am not comfortable in that particular act I did that everytime he asked me bec.I learned to loved it and I think its ok right? Its our private moment.

Thanks all of you guys...